The Ruling on Marriage
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The marriage contract is a sunnah (recommended practice) of the messengers. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said about himself: “And I marry women” ,And he said: “What has been made beloved to me from your worldly life are women and perfume, and I have made the delight of my eye in prayer” .
And Allah the Exalted said in His Book: [Surah al-Ra'd: 38] So, it is a sunnah (recommended practice) of the messengers who were concluded by Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).
It is obligatory for the capable young man; because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said: “O young men! Whoever among you can afford the marriage expenses, let him marry, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding the private parts. And whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for it is a restraint for him” . This indicates that the young men to whom the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) directed this address are those with sexual desire, as indicated by his statement: “And whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for it is a restraint for him” . So, if the young man has sexual desire and is capable of marriage, it is obligatory for him to marry due to the great benefits involved. However, if he is a young man without sexual desire, or his desire is weak and does not drive him to marriage, or if he has a strong desire but lacks the means to marry, such as the bridal gift and maintenance, then it is not obligatory for him. But what should he do? The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) guided him to fasting, saying: “Let him fast, for it is a restraint for him” ; because fasting is a worship that occupies a person with matters unrelated to marriage and sexual desire; and because fasting weakens the flow of blood, which is the pathway of Satan, thereby resulting in chastity.
If he is unable to fast, then Allah (Mighty and Majestic) said: [Surah al-Nur: 33] Meaning: they should exercise patience, and whoever exercises patience, Allah (Mighty and Majestic) will grant him patience,And if Allah the Exalted has promised: [Surah al-Nur: 33] That is: until Allah enriches them from His bounty. Up to this point is the limit, but it indicates that Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) will provide them with a way out and a solution if they exercise self-restraint.
If he does not exercise patience and is unable to do so, and fears for himself regarding unlawful sexual intercourse, there is no blame on him if he takes medication or the like to calm his desire, so that he does not fall into what is forbidden.
And Allah the Exalted said in His Book:
And We have already sent messengers before you and assigned to them wives and descendants
وَلَقَدْ أَرْسَلْنَا رُسُلاً مِنْ قَبْلِكَ وَجَعَلْنَا لَهُمْ أَزْوَاجاً وَذُرِّيَّةًIt is obligatory for the capable young man; because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said: “O young men! Whoever among you can afford the marriage expenses, let him marry, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding the private parts. And whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for it is a restraint for him” . This indicates that the young men to whom the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) directed this address are those with sexual desire, as indicated by his statement: “And whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for it is a restraint for him” . So, if the young man has sexual desire and is capable of marriage, it is obligatory for him to marry due to the great benefits involved. However, if he is a young man without sexual desire, or his desire is weak and does not drive him to marriage, or if he has a strong desire but lacks the means to marry, such as the bridal gift and maintenance, then it is not obligatory for him. But what should he do? The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) guided him to fasting, saying: “Let him fast, for it is a restraint for him” ; because fasting is a worship that occupies a person with matters unrelated to marriage and sexual desire; and because fasting weakens the flow of blood, which is the pathway of Satan, thereby resulting in chastity.
If he is unable to fast, then Allah (Mighty and Majestic) said:
But let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until Allah enriches them from His bounty.
وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذِينَ لا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحاً حَتَّى يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِBut let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until Allah enriches them from His bounty.
وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذِينَ لا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحاً حَتَّى يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِIf he does not exercise patience and is unable to do so, and fears for himself regarding unlawful sexual intercourse, there is no blame on him if he takes medication or the like to calm his desire, so that he does not fall into what is forbidden.