Is it permissible to be alone with a fiancée, given that we are committed, and the saying of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him): “No man is alone with a woman except that Shaytan is the third among them”
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The questioner : Is it permissible to be alone with a fiancée? He says that we are committed, and praise be to Allah, and the saying of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) But praise be to Allah, when we sit together, family is present, either from my family or hers, and we do not think about anything, but rather about our sitting and conversation with her. Please inform us about this?
The Shaykh : A fiancée is like a non-fiancée regarding looking at her, talking to her, and sitting with her. That is forbidden for a person, except looking at her without seclusion if he intends to propose to her. If a man wants to enjoy sitting with his fiancée and talking to her, let him conclude the marriage contract. If he concludes a marriage with a woman, it becomes permissible for him to talk to her, be alone with her, and enjoy looking at her, and everything that is permissible for a husband with his wife becomes permissible for him. As for being alone with a fiancée and saying, “I am committed and she is committed,” that is from the deception and trickery of Shaytan. For a person, no matter how chaste he is, is not free from the companionship of Shaytan when he is alone with a woman, especially if she is his fiancée and he believes that she will become permissible for him in a few days. Shaytan flows through the son of Adam like blood.
In summary, it is forbidden for a suitor to talk to his fiancée on the phone, be alone with her in a place, drive her in his car alone, or for her to sit with him and his family while uncovering her face. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
No man is alone with a woman except that Shaytan is the third among them
ما خلا رجل بامرأة إلا وكان الشيطان ثالثهماThe Shaykh : A fiancée is like a non-fiancée regarding looking at her, talking to her, and sitting with her. That is forbidden for a person, except looking at her without seclusion if he intends to propose to her. If a man wants to enjoy sitting with his fiancée and talking to her, let him conclude the marriage contract. If he concludes a marriage with a woman, it becomes permissible for him to talk to her, be alone with her, and enjoy looking at her, and everything that is permissible for a husband with his wife becomes permissible for him. As for being alone with a fiancée and saying, “I am committed and she is committed,” that is from the deception and trickery of Shaytan. For a person, no matter how chaste he is, is not free from the companionship of Shaytan when he is alone with a woman, especially if she is his fiancée and he believes that she will become permissible for him in a few days. Shaytan flows through the son of Adam like blood.
In summary, it is forbidden for a suitor to talk to his fiancée on the phone, be alone with her in a place, drive her in his car alone, or for her to sit with him and his family while uncovering her face. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.