Is it permissible for a suitor to speak with his fiancée on the telephone? Is it permissible for him to sit with her in the presence of a mahram? Is it permissible for them to exchange photographs?
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Peace: Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace and the mercy of Allah.
The questioner : If you would permit me, Your Eminence,The Shaykh : Is Al-Albani present?
The Shaykh : He is with you.
The questioner : If you permit, Shaykh, I have a few questions, I mean.
The Shaykh: Go ahead.
The questioner : Is it permissible for me to speak with my fiancée on the telephone?
The Shaykh : Have you contracted the marriage with her, or not yet?
The questioner : After.
The Shaykh : It is not permissible.
The questioner : Even if it is for the sake of advice?
The Shaykh : It is not permissible.
The questioner : Okay, is it permissible for me to visit her and sit with her in the presence of a mahram?
The Shaykh : In the presence of a mahram, if she comes out before you wearing a jilbab and a hijab, as she would come out into the street, then it is permissible; otherwise, it is not.
The questioner : I mean, is it possible for her to uncover her face?
The Shaykh : It is possible if it is only the face.
The questioner : Only the face?
The Shaykh : And there is no decorated, short dress or the like.
The questioner : Okay, regarding sitting, is it permissible to speak with her in permissible conversation?
The Shaykh : Do not speak with her except about what you would speak about with others.
The questioner : Okay, if she asks for my photograph, is it possible for me to provide it to her or not?
The Shaykh : For example, if you asked her for her photograph, would it be permissible?
The questioner: No.
The Shaykh : And my answer is no.
The questioner : Your answer is no?
The Shaykh : No
The questioner : For what reason, I mean?
The Shaykh : For the same thing you are saying is not permissible, which is asking her for the photograph, do you understand?
The questioner : Yes, exactly.
The Shaykh : If you understand, then adhere to it.
The questioner : Shaykh, sometimes a person is compelled to call her, is that permissible?
The Shaykh : I do not think there is a dire necessity, you are courting her.
The questioner : For example, I mean, is it possible for me to call her and visit her at a certain time?
The Shaykh : Why would you visit her? What is the difference between her and others?
The questioner : I mean, is the visit not permissible?
The Shaykh : My brother, I am telling you, what is the difference between her and others?
The questioner : So, the visit is not permissible?
The Shaykh : I am telling you, my brother, what is the difference between her and others? Why would you visit her? If you want to court her, court her through her wali (guardian)...
The questioner : In the presence of her wali (guardian), who is present.
The Shaykh : If you want to court her, court her through her wali (guardian). If there is an initial agreement, you may visit her in the presence of her wali (guardian) to see her and for her to see you; but visiting her [alone] is not allowed.
The questioner : I mean, after the proposal, is the visit also not permissible?
The Shaykh : After the proposal?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : She is still a stranger to you, my brother, until you contract the marriage with her.
The questioner : Thank you, may Allah reward you with good, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : And beware of that.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : May Allah preserve you.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace and the mercy of Allah.
The questioner : If you would permit me, Your Eminence,The Shaykh : Is Al-Albani present?
The Shaykh : He is with you.
The questioner : If you permit, Shaykh, I have a few questions, I mean.
The Shaykh: Go ahead.
The questioner : Is it permissible for me to speak with my fiancée on the telephone?
The Shaykh : Have you contracted the marriage with her, or not yet?
The questioner : After.
The Shaykh : It is not permissible.
The questioner : Even if it is for the sake of advice?
The Shaykh : It is not permissible.
The questioner : Okay, is it permissible for me to visit her and sit with her in the presence of a mahram?
The Shaykh : In the presence of a mahram, if she comes out before you wearing a jilbab and a hijab, as she would come out into the street, then it is permissible; otherwise, it is not.
The questioner : I mean, is it possible for her to uncover her face?
The Shaykh : It is possible if it is only the face.
The questioner : Only the face?
The Shaykh : And there is no decorated, short dress or the like.
The questioner : Okay, regarding sitting, is it permissible to speak with her in permissible conversation?
The Shaykh : Do not speak with her except about what you would speak about with others.
The questioner : Okay, if she asks for my photograph, is it possible for me to provide it to her or not?
The Shaykh : For example, if you asked her for her photograph, would it be permissible?
The questioner: No.
The Shaykh : And my answer is no.
The questioner : Your answer is no?
The Shaykh : No
The questioner : For what reason, I mean?
The Shaykh : For the same thing you are saying is not permissible, which is asking her for the photograph, do you understand?
The questioner : Yes, exactly.
The Shaykh : If you understand, then adhere to it.
The questioner : Shaykh, sometimes a person is compelled to call her, is that permissible?
The Shaykh : I do not think there is a dire necessity, you are courting her.
The questioner : For example, I mean, is it possible for me to call her and visit her at a certain time?
The Shaykh : Why would you visit her? What is the difference between her and others?
The questioner : I mean, is the visit not permissible?
The Shaykh : My brother, I am telling you, what is the difference between her and others?
The questioner : So, the visit is not permissible?
The Shaykh : I am telling you, my brother, what is the difference between her and others? Why would you visit her? If you want to court her, court her through her wali (guardian)...
The questioner : In the presence of her wali (guardian), who is present.
The Shaykh : If you want to court her, court her through her wali (guardian). If there is an initial agreement, you may visit her in the presence of her wali (guardian) to see her and for her to see you; but visiting her [alone] is not allowed.
The questioner : I mean, after the proposal, is the visit also not permissible?
The Shaykh : After the proposal?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : She is still a stranger to you, my brother, until you contract the marriage with her.
The questioner : Thank you, may Allah reward you with good, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : And beware of that.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : May Allah preserve you.
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