Is it permissible for a fiancée to speak with her fiancé in order to determine the time of her wedding?
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The questioner : If you please, Shaykh, I want to tell you and I want to raise this issue with you, and I need you to issue a ruling on it, if Allah wills?
The Shaykh : Please, go ahead.
The questioner : Our Shaykh, I have just come, and praise be to Allah, from commitment.
The Shaykh : Praise be to Allah.
The questioner : A person I am close to has repented, and he is committed, and there is a sort of agreement between us regarding marriage!
The Shaykh : I mean, you are not married yet?
The questioner : I would like to know if it is permissible for me to speak with him on the phone and make an agreement with him?
The Shaykh : You are not married yet?!
The questioner : Huh?
The Shaykh : You are not married yet?!
The questioner : No, I am not married.
The Shaykh : Okay, is your father present?
The questioner : My father is present, and his family knows, and our family knows!
The Shaykh : It is not permissible for you to speak with your fiancé except in the presence of your father and your family. Did you understand?
The questioner : Yes, yes, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Okay, what do you want besides that?
The questioner : Okay, why can’t we speak with him?
The Shaykh : No, it is not permissible.
The questioner : Because, brother, the conversation between me and him is that we will agree on the marriage after two years. I want to know if he will delay this period or not? That’s all.
The Shaykh : O my sister, may Allah guide you, let your wali (guardian) be the one who speaks on this matter, and not between you and him.
The questioner : Yes, may Allah bless you, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : May Allah preserve you.
The Shaykh : Please, go ahead.
The questioner : Our Shaykh, I have just come, and praise be to Allah, from commitment.
The Shaykh : Praise be to Allah.
The questioner : A person I am close to has repented, and he is committed, and there is a sort of agreement between us regarding marriage!
The Shaykh : I mean, you are not married yet?
The questioner : I would like to know if it is permissible for me to speak with him on the phone and make an agreement with him?
The Shaykh : You are not married yet?!
The questioner : Huh?
The Shaykh : You are not married yet?!
The questioner : No, I am not married.
The Shaykh : Okay, is your father present?
The questioner : My father is present, and his family knows, and our family knows!
The Shaykh : It is not permissible for you to speak with your fiancé except in the presence of your father and your family. Did you understand?
The questioner : Yes, yes, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Okay, what do you want besides that?
The questioner : Okay, why can’t we speak with him?
The Shaykh : No, it is not permissible.
The questioner : Because, brother, the conversation between me and him is that we will agree on the marriage after two years. I want to know if he will delay this period or not? That’s all.
The Shaykh : O my sister, may Allah guide you, let your wali (guardian) be the one who speaks on this matter, and not between you and him.
The questioner : Yes, may Allah bless you, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : May Allah preserve you.
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