If a man says to his wife, “You are forbidden to me if I sleep with you after today without taking a bath before sleeping,” is she forbidden to him, and does he owe an expiation for an oath?
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The Shaykh : Yes
The questioner : Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And peace be upon you.
The questioner : Muhammad
The Shaykh : Yes
The questioner : Muhammad, please.
Another questioner: Who is Muhammad?
Another questioner: I am saying Oman.
Another questioner: Oman?
Another questioner: No, he said Shaykh Muhammad.
The Shaykh : Hello.
The questioner : Hello.
The Shaykh : Are you not speaking, my brother?
The questioner : Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And peace be upon you.
The questioner : I want to ask you a question, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Yes
The questioner : I mean, today I swore an oath regarding my wife.
The Shaykh : What did you say?
The questioner : Many times... with your wife.
The Shaykh : What did you say? What did you say?
The questioner : What did you say? I said, “You are forbidden to me if I sleep with you after this day without taking a bath that same night, or if we had agreed beforehand, because many times I miss the Fajr prayer.”
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : So how does a person break this oath?
The Shaykh : How did you phrase it?
The questioner : Yes
The Shaykh : How did you phrase it?
The questioner : ..
The Shaykh : Why did you phrase it that way?
The questioner : Because we often miss the Fajr prayer.
The Shaykh : Do you miss the Fajr prayer?
The questioner : Yes, that is right.
The Shaykh : It appears that you stay up late.
The questioner : Yes
The Shaykh : It is not permissible to stay up late in a way that causes you to miss the Fajr prayer.
The questioner : Yes
The Shaykh : If you want to have intercourse with your wife,
The questioner : Yes
The Shaykh : either you have intercourse with her after the 'Isha' prayer, and you both take a bath, then you put your heads down and sleep so that you can make it for the Fajr prayer; or you control your nerves and do not approach her until after you have prayed Fajr. This oath of yours requires an expiation for an oath first, and you must repent to Allah the Exalted from staying up late second.
The questioner : Once more, I beg you, my master.
The Shaykh : First, you must offer an expiation for an oath by feeding ten poor people; that is first. And second, you must repent to Allah the Exalted from your staying up late. You and your wife, and your children if you have any, must stop staying up late after the 'Isha' prayer and sleep early so that you can wake up early. This is the answer to your question.
The questioner : Well, my master, how much do we give as charity? How much is the amount?
The Shaykh : There is no specific amount I am telling you; it is feeding ten poor people.
The questioner : Well, approximately how much money would that come to, instead of me providing the food myself?
The Shaykh : You must provide food, food, food. What do you eat? You feed them that.
The questioner : Yes, yes.
The Shaykh : Did you understand me or not?
The questioner : Yes, yes.
The Shaykh : May Allah reward you. Peace be upon you.
The questioner : And upon you be peace. Thank you, thank you.
The Shaykh : Welcome.
Another questioner: ... feeding or clothing, the verse means... feeding, feeding, they said... clothing.
The Shaykh : Which is easier, may Allah guide you.
Another questioner: Excuse me, he is asking.
The Shaykh : Which is easier, may Allah guide you.
Another questioner: Amen, guide me and you.
Another questioner: Clothing is easier for him.
The Shaykh : No.
Another questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : He goes down to the market and buys for him, large and small, long.
Another questioner: Even if it is...
The Shaykh : These, if Allah wills, will fulfill the food requirement.
Another questioner: Is it considered an expiation for zihar or an expiation for an oath?
The Shaykh : No, it is an oath.
The questioner : Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And peace be upon you.
The questioner : Muhammad
The Shaykh : Yes
The questioner : Muhammad, please.
Another questioner: Who is Muhammad?
Another questioner: I am saying Oman.
Another questioner: Oman?
Another questioner: No, he said Shaykh Muhammad.
The Shaykh : Hello.
The questioner : Hello.
The Shaykh : Are you not speaking, my brother?
The questioner : Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And peace be upon you.
The questioner : I want to ask you a question, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Yes
The questioner : I mean, today I swore an oath regarding my wife.
The Shaykh : What did you say?
The questioner : Many times... with your wife.
The Shaykh : What did you say? What did you say?
The questioner : What did you say? I said, “You are forbidden to me if I sleep with you after this day without taking a bath that same night, or if we had agreed beforehand, because many times I miss the Fajr prayer.”
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : So how does a person break this oath?
The Shaykh : How did you phrase it?
The questioner : Yes
The Shaykh : How did you phrase it?
The questioner : ..
The Shaykh : Why did you phrase it that way?
The questioner : Because we often miss the Fajr prayer.
The Shaykh : Do you miss the Fajr prayer?
The questioner : Yes, that is right.
The Shaykh : It appears that you stay up late.
The questioner : Yes
The Shaykh : It is not permissible to stay up late in a way that causes you to miss the Fajr prayer.
The questioner : Yes
The Shaykh : If you want to have intercourse with your wife,
The questioner : Yes
The Shaykh : either you have intercourse with her after the 'Isha' prayer, and you both take a bath, then you put your heads down and sleep so that you can make it for the Fajr prayer; or you control your nerves and do not approach her until after you have prayed Fajr. This oath of yours requires an expiation for an oath first, and you must repent to Allah the Exalted from staying up late second.
The questioner : Once more, I beg you, my master.
The Shaykh : First, you must offer an expiation for an oath by feeding ten poor people; that is first. And second, you must repent to Allah the Exalted from your staying up late. You and your wife, and your children if you have any, must stop staying up late after the 'Isha' prayer and sleep early so that you can wake up early. This is the answer to your question.
The questioner : Well, my master, how much do we give as charity? How much is the amount?
The Shaykh : There is no specific amount I am telling you; it is feeding ten poor people.
The questioner : Well, approximately how much money would that come to, instead of me providing the food myself?
The Shaykh : You must provide food, food, food. What do you eat? You feed them that.
The questioner : Yes, yes.
The Shaykh : Did you understand me or not?
The questioner : Yes, yes.
The Shaykh : May Allah reward you. Peace be upon you.
The questioner : And upon you be peace. Thank you, thank you.
The Shaykh : Welcome.
Another questioner: ... feeding or clothing, the verse means... feeding, feeding, they said... clothing.
The Shaykh : Which is easier, may Allah guide you.
Another questioner: Excuse me, he is asking.
The Shaykh : Which is easier, may Allah guide you.
Another questioner: Amen, guide me and you.
Another questioner: Clothing is easier for him.
The Shaykh : No.
Another questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : He goes down to the market and buys for him, large and small, long.
Another questioner: Even if it is...
The Shaykh : These, if Allah wills, will fulfill the food requirement.
Another questioner: Is it considered an expiation for zihar or an expiation for an oath?
The Shaykh : No, it is an oath.