How can a Muslim reconcile pleasing his parents with pleasing his wife, given that my father is not very comfortable with my wife, and my wife is not very comfortable with them either?

The questioner : How can a Muslim reconcile pleasing his parents, his mother and father, with pleasing his wife, given that my father is not very comfortable with my wife, and likewise my wife is not comfortable with them? I am happy with my wife and my children, so what do you advise me to do, O honorable Shaykh?

The Shaykh : Yes. I advise you to strive with utmost effort to reconcile your wife with your father and mother. If reconciliation is achieved, that is a blessing from Allah upon everyone. If it is not achieved, then seek permission from your parents to move out to a house where you, your wife, and your children are alone. It is better if the house is close to your parents' home so that visiting them is easy. And if you separate from your parents for this purpose, your separation is valid and there is no blame on you for it, because this is better than the marriage continuing in distress and your parents living in distress, or you parting with your wife and children. Yes.

The questioner : This is a listener, Hasan 'Abd Allah, from Sudan, who says.