Is it permissible for a girl not to marry except with the permission of her paternal cousins?
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The Shaykh : Disobedience in Makkah is more severe than in al-Madinah, but an event in religion that changes the face of religion is more severe than in any place, with regard to al-Madinah. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good. This questioner says: There are people who do not marry off a girl except after the permission of her paternal cousins. If they give her permission to marry someone else, they marry her off; if they do not give her permission, they do not marry her off. And the girl may remain her whole life without marrying. He asks: Is this permissible?
The Shaykh : This is forbidden, and it is from the claims of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance and from the deeds of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance: that a woman is not to be married off except to her paternal cousins, and that a man is not to marry except from the daughters of his paternal cousins. A person marries whom he wishes, and a girl marries whom she wishes, but it is necessary to observe character and religion, as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1085Da'if (Darussalam) And the girl also must have a guardian who contracts her marriage . But if the girl chooses a man of religion and character, and her guardian refuses to marry her to him, is it permissible for her to seek another guardian? The answer is: Yes. If her father, for example, refuses to marry her off, her brother marries her off. If he refuses, her paternal uncle marries her off. If he refuses, her paternal cousin or her brother's son marries her off. If the clan refuses to marry her off, looking at the fact that the father has refused, the judge marries her off against their will, as long as the suitor is a match in his religion and character. The judge marries her off against their will, as long as the suitor is a match in his religion and character, even if her relatives and guardians dislike it. It is not permissible for them at all to prevent the girl from marrying a person she wants to marry, unless they find a fault in his religion or character. That is a different matter. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good. This questioner says: There are people who do not marry off a girl except after the permission of her paternal cousins. If they give her permission to marry someone else, they marry her off; if they do not give her permission, they do not marry her off. And the girl may remain her whole life without marrying. He asks: Is this permissible?
The Shaykh : This is forbidden, and it is from the claims of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance and from the deeds of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance: that a woman is not to be married off except to her paternal cousins, and that a man is not to marry except from the daughters of his paternal cousins. A person marries whom he wishes, and a girl marries whom she wishes, but it is necessary to observe character and religion, as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: