The remainder of a man whose father or brothers are angry with him when he maintains ties with his relatives from his kin, so what does he do?
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The Shaykh : They should fear Allah (Mighty and Majestic) in His command, and not be pleased with what Allah dislikes, and dislike what Allah is pleased with, before they repent while they are in this state, may Allah protect us from it. And Allah the Exalted said: [Muhammad 47:22-23] This indicates that Allah has blinded the eyes of these people because they do not approve of what Allah has approved, nor do they enjoin what Allah has commanded; rather, they dislike what Allah has approved and forbid what Allah has commanded. Is this not a blinding of the eyes? This is a blinding of the eyes, clear and evident to us. As for the curse, its matter is with Allah, but Allah promised them [Muhammad 47:23] They became unable to hear the truth or look at it. Then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sunan Abi Dawud 1696Sahih (Al-Albani) Do these people not wish to die while in this state and then not enter Paradise? This is the first piece of advice for those who do not approve of a man maintaining ties with his relatives. As for the others, which is the second piece of advice, I say to those who say: "Our father, or our brother, or our mother does not approve of me maintaining ties with my relatives," I say: Maintain your ties with your relatives, maintain your ties with your relatives, even if it angers him, because if you maintain your ties with your relatives, you have obeyed your Lord, and if you do not maintain your ties with your relatives, you have disobeyed your Lord. Is Allah disobeyed by obeying a created being, or is a created being disobeyed by obeying Allah? A created being is disobeyed by obeying Allah. So I say: Maintain your ties with your relatives, even if they do not desire it. If they cut you off, cut them off. And as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to a man who informed him that he maintains ties with his relatives, but they cut him off, he is good to them and they are bad to him, and he is patient with them, meaning they are angry with him, he said: Sahih Ibn Hibban 6:144 Meaning it is as if you are putting hot embers in their mouths. So I say to the brother, and this is the second piece of advice: Maintain the ties of kinship, whether your father is angry or not. Then do not spare any effort in advising your father and saying: "O my father, this is forbidden for you. How do you enjoin what is wrong and forbid what is right?" Then ask him and advise him to maintain the ties of kinship. He, even if he is angry with you. What did Ibrahim say to his father? He said: [Maryam 19:42] Until his father said to him: [Maryam 19:46] Yes.
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The Shaykh : Be establishers of justice, with equity. Yes.
(22) So would you perhaps, if you turned away, cause corruption on earth and sever your [ties of] relationship? (23) Those [who do so] are the ones that Allah has cursed, so He deafened them and blinded their vision.
فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ * أُولَئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمَى أَبْصَارَهُمْThose [who do so] are the ones that Allah has cursed, so He deafened them and blinded their vision.
أُولَئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمَى أَبْصَارَهُمْAnyone who cuts off relationship from his nearest relatives will not enter Paradise.
لا يدخل الجنة قاطع رحمIf you are as you say, it is as if you are pouring molten metal on them.
إن كنت كما تقول فكأنما تسفهم الملO my father, why do you worship that which does not hear and does not see and will not benefit you at all?
يَا أَبَتِ لِمَ تَعْبُدُ مَا لا يَسْمَعُ وَلا يُبْصِرُ وَلا يُغْنِي عَنْكَ شَيْئاًHave you no desire for my gods, O Abraham? If you do not desist, I will surely stone you
أَرَاغِبٌ أَنْتَ عَنْ آلِهَتِي يَا إِبْرَاهِيمُ لَئِنْ لَمْ تَنْتَهِ لَأَرْجُمَنَّكَThe questioner : ... .
The Shaykh : Be establishers of justice, with equity. Yes.