How to reconcile the saying of Allah the Exalted: “And no bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another” with what was reported that the deceased is punished by the weeping of his family over him?

The student: O Shaykh, may Allah reward you. O Shaykh, how do we reconcile … with what was reported that the deceased is punished by the weeping of his family over him?

The Shaykh : Yes, this is also correct. It should be brought up in relation to the verse, which is that it is established from the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) that the deceased is punished by the weeping of his family over him. Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) said: “The intended meaning of that is the disbeliever”. There is no doubt that she (may Allah be pleased with her) is a human being who errs and hits the mark. This is because the disbeliever is punished whether his family weeps over him or not. However, she intended to say that the meaning of the hadith is that the disbeliever is indeed punished and his family weeps over him … this is the meaning of the hadith, and she cited the verse as evidence. But we say: this interpretation does not hold. Rather, the meaning of the verse is that the intended meaning of the punishment is distress, psychological distress, and not physical pain. The parallel to this is the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him): Even though the traveler does not suffer physical suffering; it may be one of the most pleasant things if the land is fertile, the camels are good, and the companions are good friends. What is travel? It is a pleasure, a pleasure. And yet, it is a piece of heartache, correct? We are on the plane, comfortable, heated in the winter and cool in the summer, and we drink coffee and juice and eat dates, and everything we ask for comes. And yet, the heart is distressed; it is not like the person who is settled in his home. So the punishment in the grave is this type of punishment. And some scholars said: he is punished with physical punishment, he is penalized with a physical penalty. But this is for the one who instructed his family to wail over him. Even if this was not mentioned in the hadith, the hadith is understood in light of what other texts require. And some said: this is for the man who knows from his family that they will wail over him and he did not forbid them. The difference between this statement and the one before it is clear: the one before it instructed them, and this one did not forbid them; he did not instruct them, but he knew that they would do it, so he did not forbid them. So these are four statements regarding the hadith, and the most correct of them is that the intended meaning of the punishment is psychological punishment, not physical punishment, due to the saying of Allah the Exalted: Yes.
The student: In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. أَمَّنْ هُوَ قَانِتٌ آنَاءَ اللَّيْلِ سَاجِدًا وَقَائِمًا يَحْذَرُ الْآخِرَةَ وَيَرْجُو رَحْمَةَ رَبِّهِ قُلْ هَلْ يَسْتَوِي الَّذِينَ يَعْلَمُونَ وَالَّذِينَ لَا يَعْلَمُونَ إِنَّمَا يَتَذَكَّرُ أُولُو الْأَلْبَابِ 9 قُلْ يَا عِبَادِ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمْ لِلَّذِينَ أَحْسَنُوا فِي هَذِهِ الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةٌ وَأَرْضُ اللَّهِ وَاسِعَةٌ إِنَّمَا يُوَفَّى الصَّابِرُونَ أَجْرَهُمْ بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍ 10 Who is it that stands in devotion during the hours of the night, prostrating and standing, fearing the Hereafter and hoping for the mercy of his Lord? Say: Are those who know equal to those who do not know? Only those of understanding will be mindful. Say: O My servants who have believed, fear your Lord. For those who do good in this world is good, and the earth of Allah is vast. Only the patient will be given their reward without reckoning.