She says in her letter, and she titled it before beginning with "In the name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy," saying: "My husband and I are an expatriate family of eight years, and we have three..."

The questioner : She says in her letter, and she titled it before beginning with "In the name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy," saying: "My husband and I, we are a family consisting of, or we are an expatriate family of eight years, and we have three children. My husband is the type who behaves as if he is a bachelor, with no account for himself or his family. She says his salary is good, but we often borrow to complete the month. His only concern is that he secures a considerable amount for every visitor coming for Hajj or 'Umrah from his country, and this often leads him to borrow the amount from his colleagues, and there are many visitors coming to us, whether this visitor is a close or distant relative with no connection to us, because he, and if he gives a gift, he is extravagant. If he is alone with his friends, he spends on them without limit. The most dangerous of this is that he does not save anything for us, such that he cannot enter his home country due to special circumstances, and we do not have a single coin saved from eight years of work. Her question is: Is it permissible for me to save whenever I can, or whenever the opportunity presents itself to me, so I save and buy gold with it in preparation for any emergency that may happen to us all? What is the ruling on that? May Allah reward you and may you be rewarded for us with good?"

The Shaykh : If your husband is of this description, you may take from his wealth without his knowledge what is sufficient for you and your children, and even what is sufficient for your children, both male and female, in a reasonable manner. As for taking something to save that is in excess of what you and your children need, that is not permissible, because your husband is an adult, sane, and of sound mind, and is not under guardianship, so it is not permissible for you to dispose of anything from his wealth except with his permission, except for what you and your children need. In that case, it is permissible for you to take from his wealth in a reasonable manner, because Hind bint 'Utbah came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: This is the meaning of what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said.

The questioner : O Allah, send blessings and peace upon him.

The Shaykh : Yes.

The questioner : But Shaykh Muhammad, the situation differs between Hind bint 'Utbah and this wife, for Hind's husband was stingy with his family and did not spend on others, whereas this man spends everything that falls into his hand of goods and money, until the day comes when he leaves them and they remain without a provider.

The Shaykh : We mentioned the story of Hind in order to clarify that it is permissible for a woman to take from her husband's wealth what is sufficient for her and her children, and it does not mean that she is similar in every respect.

The questioner : Yes.

The Shaykh : As for the fact that this man is generous and spends a lot, you cannot take from his wealth what is in excess of your maintenance and the maintenance of your children, because he is not under guardianship. However, if she sees that the man is extravagant or wasteful, she may bring the matter to the court. If the court permits her to make the disposition she mentioned, there is no harm in it.

The questioner : So her solution is to go to the court and file the lawsuit she submitted to the program...

The Shaykh : She explains the condition of her husband.

The questioner : Yes.

The Shaykh : Yes, indeed.

The questioner : We received a message from a listener from the Saudi Arabian side, M A A, Jeddah, an Arab citizen in the Kingdom.