What is the ruling on a wife who takes from her husband's money several times without his knowledge and spends it on her children, and swears to him that she has not taken anything from him? What is the ruling on this?
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The questioner : What is the ruling on a wife who takes from her husband's money several times without his knowledge and spends it on her children, and swears to him that she has not taken anything from him? What is the ruling on this action? May Allah reward you?
The Shaykh : The answer is that it is not permissible for a woman to take from her husband's money without his permission, because Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) has forbidden the servants to take from one another's wealth. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) declared this in the Farewell Pilgrimage, where he said:Sahih Muslim 1679b However, if her husband is stingy and does not give her what suffices her and her children in terms of maintenance in a good manner, then she has the right to take from his wealth the amount of maintenance that is good for her and her children. She should not take more than this, nor should she take anything to spend on more than what is obligatory for her and her children. This is based on the hadith of Hind bint 'Utbah, who came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and complained about her husband, saying: "He is a stingy man who does not give me from the maintenance what suffices me and my children". The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: or he said . The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) permitted her to take from his wealth what suffices her and her children in a good manner, whether he knew about it or not.
In this question, the woman says that she swears to her husband that she has not taken anything. Her oath is forbidden, unless she interprets it by intending with her statement "By Allah, I have not taken anything" to mean "By Allah, I have not taken anything whose taking is forbidden to me," or "By Allah, I have not taken anything in excess of the obligatory maintenance due to you," or something similar to this interpretation that corresponds to what she is entitled to by the Shari'ah. Because interpretation is permissible if a person is wronged. However, if a person is a wrongdoer, or is neither a wrongdoer nor wronged, then it is not permissible. The woman whose husband is stingy with what is obligatory for her and her children is wronged, so it is permissible for her to interpret. Yes.
The questioner : This is a message we received from a listener who used the initials A H from Jordan. He says in his message.
The Shaykh : The answer is that it is not permissible for a woman to take from her husband's money without his permission, because Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) has forbidden the servants to take from one another's wealth. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) declared this in the Farewell Pilgrimage, where he said:
Verily your blood (lives) and your property and your honour are as sacred unto you as sacred is this day of yours, in this month of yours, in this city of yours. Let him who is present convey it to one who is absent.
إن دماءكم وأموالكم وأعراضكم عليكم حرام، كحرمة يومكم هذا، في شهركم هذا، في بلدكم هذا، ألا هل بلّغتTake from his wealth what is sufficient for you and your children.
خذي من ماله ما يكفيك ويكفي بنيكWhat suffices you and your child in a good manner
ما يكفيك ويكفي ولدك بالمعروفIn this question, the woman says that she swears to her husband that she has not taken anything. Her oath is forbidden, unless she interprets it by intending with her statement "By Allah, I have not taken anything" to mean "By Allah, I have not taken anything whose taking is forbidden to me," or "By Allah, I have not taken anything in excess of the obligatory maintenance due to you," or something similar to this interpretation that corresponds to what she is entitled to by the Shari'ah. Because interpretation is permissible if a person is wronged. However, if a person is a wrongdoer, or is neither a wrongdoer nor wronged, then it is not permissible. The woman whose husband is stingy with what is obligatory for her and her children is wronged, so it is permissible for her to interpret. Yes.
The questioner : This is a message we received from a listener who used the initials A H from Jordan. He says in his message.