Continuation of the explanation of the statement of Imam al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) regarding what he quoted: "."
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The Shaykh : And the third: That is: do not hate one another. This is with regard to the believers among themselves, so it is not permissible for a person to hate his brother, meaning to dislike him in his heart, because he is his brother. However, if this brother is among the sinners and open sinners, it is not permissible for you to hate him because of his open sinfulness, to hate him absolutely. But hate him for the disobedience in him, and love him for the faith in him.
It is well known that if we find a Muslim man who drinks intoxicants, smokes, and drags his garment in arrogance, we do not hate him as we hate a disbeliever. Whoever hates him as he hates a disbeliever has turned things upside down. How do you equate a disobedient, open sinner believer with a disbeliever? This is a serious error.
Perhaps some people dislike the believer who has this open sinfulness more than they dislike the disbeliever, and this, may Allah protect us from it, is a reversal of the fitrah. The believer, no matter what, is better than the disbeliever.
So you hate him for the disobedience in him, and love him for the faith with him. If you say: How can love and dislike coexist in one thing?
The answer is: Yes, love and dislike can coexist in one thing. Have you seen if a doctor prescribed for you a medicine that is bitter and foul-smelling, but said: Drink it and you will be healed by the permission of Allah? Do you love this medicine absolutely? No, because it is bitter and foul-smelling. But you love it from the aspect that it is a cause of healing, and you dislike it for the foul smell and bitter taste in it.
So the disobedient believer: love him for the faith with him, and dislike him for the sins with him. Do not dislike him absolutely. Then, your dislike of him does not mean that you should turn away from advising him. Advise him. You may say: I cannot bear to face this man, I dislike his appearance. Force yourself, contact him, and advise him. Perhaps Allah will benefit him through your hand. Do not despair. How many people did a person consider unlikely to be guided by Allah, yet Allah the Mighty and Majestic guided them?
And there are many examples of this in our current time and in the past. In our current time, there are open sinners for whom Allah made someone call them to the truth, so they were guided, and they became better than the one who called them.
And in the past, there are many examples. So Khalid ibn al-Walid (may Allah be pleased with him) was a drawn sword against the Muslims, and his positions at Uhud are famous, where he and the horsemen of Quraysh charged at the Muslims from the mountain, and what happened happened. And 'Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) was the most averse of people to what the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) brought, or among the most averse of people. So Allah guided him, and he became one of the awliya (close friends of Allah). He was the second in this Ummah, the second in this Ummah.
So do not despair. Do not say: By Allah, this man, I cannot bear him in appearance or hearing, and I cannot go to him. Go and do not despair, for the hearts are in the hand of Allah the Mighty and Majestic. We ask Allah to guide us and you to His straight path.
If someone says: Hatred is: "an emotion in the soul", and emotional things may be beyond a person's control, like love, for example. A person does not have the power to love a person, or to decrease his love, or to increase his love except through causes. For this reason, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said while dividing among his wives:Sunan Abi Dawud 2134 meaning from love. And it is well known that the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) loved Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) more than his other wives, but this was without his choice.
I say, if someone says: Hatred is an emotion that a person cannot control! The answer is: The emotion occurs through action. You, for example, do not love a person except for causes: his faith, his benefit, his good character, his service to you, many things. Mention these causes and you will love him. And you do not dislike a person except for a cause. Mention the causes that necessitate dislike and you will dislike him. But with that, a person should turn away from the causes that necessitate hatred with his brother, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said:.
But I say: Hatred has causes, and love has causes. If you turn away from the causes of hatred and forget them and are heedless of them, they will disappear by the permission of Allah. This is what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) intended by his saying:, and it is similar to his saying to the man who said: .
Anger: A person may say that it is a coal that Satan throws into the heart of the son of Adam, as came in the hadith, so there is no way to extinguish it. And we say: Rather, there is a way. Do the causes that lighten anger until the anger leaves you.
He said:: Do not turn your backs on one another. Is the meaning that one does not turn his back on another? This is physical turning away. It means, for example, in gatherings, you do not sit and leave people behind you. This is from turning away. And from turning away is cutting off speech. Your brother speaks to you and you have turned away from him, or when he speaks you turn away and leave him. This is turning away, and this is physical turning away.
And there is conceptual turning away, which is a difference of opinion, such that each of us has an opinion contrary to the other. This is turning away in opinion, and the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) also prohibited it.
And I think that from turning away is what some brothers do when they finish the prayer: they advance in the row by a span or so. This is a type of turning away. For this reason, some people complained to me of this situation. Some people said: When we finish the prayer, he advances a little and then blocks me from the imam, especially if there is a lesson, he blocks me from seeing the imam. And it is well known that if a person sees the teacher, he is more alert to him and closer to understanding and grasping. So some people dislike this thing. This also requires a person to have insight and acumen. How do you advance over your brothers and throw them behind you? If you wish to expand, stand up. If you are in the first row, advance far and sit. If you are in the second row, move back. As for advancing over people and throwing your back at them, this is a type of bad conduct, and a type of turning away.
So in this matter and others, a person should be mindful of others. He should not be selfish, doing whatever comes to his mind without looking at people. Look at people: will you do what is criticized of you or not? And success is from Allah.
The reader: The author (may Allah have mercy on him) quoted: "From Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said:, narrated by Muslim".
Do not hate one another
ولا تباغضواIt is well known that if we find a Muslim man who drinks intoxicants, smokes, and drags his garment in arrogance, we do not hate him as we hate a disbeliever. Whoever hates him as he hates a disbeliever has turned things upside down. How do you equate a disobedient, open sinner believer with a disbeliever? This is a serious error.
Perhaps some people dislike the believer who has this open sinfulness more than they dislike the disbeliever, and this, may Allah protect us from it, is a reversal of the fitrah. The believer, no matter what, is better than the disbeliever.
So you hate him for the disobedience in him, and love him for the faith with him. If you say: How can love and dislike coexist in one thing?
The answer is: Yes, love and dislike can coexist in one thing. Have you seen if a doctor prescribed for you a medicine that is bitter and foul-smelling, but said: Drink it and you will be healed by the permission of Allah? Do you love this medicine absolutely? No, because it is bitter and foul-smelling. But you love it from the aspect that it is a cause of healing, and you dislike it for the foul smell and bitter taste in it.
So the disobedient believer: love him for the faith with him, and dislike him for the sins with him. Do not dislike him absolutely. Then, your dislike of him does not mean that you should turn away from advising him. Advise him. You may say: I cannot bear to face this man, I dislike his appearance. Force yourself, contact him, and advise him. Perhaps Allah will benefit him through your hand. Do not despair. How many people did a person consider unlikely to be guided by Allah, yet Allah the Mighty and Majestic guided them?
And there are many examples of this in our current time and in the past. In our current time, there are open sinners for whom Allah made someone call them to the truth, so they were guided, and they became better than the one who called them.
And in the past, there are many examples. So Khalid ibn al-Walid (may Allah be pleased with him) was a drawn sword against the Muslims, and his positions at Uhud are famous, where he and the horsemen of Quraysh charged at the Muslims from the mountain, and what happened happened. And 'Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) was the most averse of people to what the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) brought, or among the most averse of people. So Allah guided him, and he became one of the awliya (close friends of Allah). He was the second in this Ummah, the second in this Ummah.
So do not despair. Do not say: By Allah, this man, I cannot bear him in appearance or hearing, and I cannot go to him. Go and do not despair, for the hearts are in the hand of Allah the Mighty and Majestic. We ask Allah to guide us and you to His straight path.
If someone says: Hatred is: "an emotion in the soul", and emotional things may be beyond a person's control, like love, for example. A person does not have the power to love a person, or to decrease his love, or to increase his love except through causes. For this reason, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said while dividing among his wives:
O Allah, this is my division concerning what I control, so do not blame me concerning what You control and I do not
اللهم هذا قسمي فيما أملك، فلا تلمني فيما لا أملكI say, if someone says: Hatred is an emotion that a person cannot control! The answer is: The emotion occurs through action. You, for example, do not love a person except for causes: his faith, his benefit, his good character, his service to you, many things. Mention these causes and you will love him. And you do not dislike a person except for a cause. Mention the causes that necessitate dislike and you will dislike him. But with that, a person should turn away from the causes that necessitate hatred with his brother, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said:
Do not hate one another
لا تباغضواBut I say: Hatred has causes, and love has causes. If you turn away from the causes of hatred and forget them and are heedless of them, they will disappear by the permission of Allah. This is what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) intended by his saying:
Do not hate one another
لا تباغضواO Messenger of Allah, advise me. He said: Do not get angry. He said: Advise me. He said: Do not get angry. He said: Advise me. He said: Do not get angry. He repeated it several times: Do not get angry
يا رسول الله أوصني ، قال: لا تغضب ، قال: أوصني، قال : لا تغضب ، قال : اوصني ، قال : لا تغضب ، ردد مراراً قال: لا تغضبAnger: A person may say that it is a coal that Satan throws into the heart of the son of Adam, as came in the hadith, so there is no way to extinguish it. And we say: Rather, there is a way. Do the causes that lighten anger until the anger leaves you.
He said:
Do not turn away from one another
ولا تدابرواAnd there is conceptual turning away, which is a difference of opinion, such that each of us has an opinion contrary to the other. This is turning away in opinion, and the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) also prohibited it.
And I think that from turning away is what some brothers do when they finish the prayer: they advance in the row by a span or so. This is a type of turning away. For this reason, some people complained to me of this situation. Some people said: When we finish the prayer, he advances a little and then blocks me from the imam, especially if there is a lesson, he blocks me from seeing the imam. And it is well known that if a person sees the teacher, he is more alert to him and closer to understanding and grasping. So some people dislike this thing. This also requires a person to have insight and acumen. How do you advance over your brothers and throw them behind you? If you wish to expand, stand up. If you are in the first row, advance far and sit. If you are in the second row, move back. As for advancing over people and throwing your back at them, this is a type of bad conduct, and a type of turning away.
So in this matter and others, a person should be mindful of others. He should not be selfish, doing whatever comes to his mind without looking at people. Look at people: will you do what is criticized of you or not? And success is from Allah.
The reader: The author (may Allah have mercy on him) quoted: "From Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: