Benefits of the Hadith: (A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, ...)
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The Shaykh : In this hadith, there is evidence that the majority of men’s purposes in marriage are these four things: wealth, lineage, beauty, and religion.
Among its benefits is that there is no blame on a man if he marries a woman for her wealth, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) approved of this man and did not disapprove of it, but he encouraged seeking a woman of religion.
Likewise, among its benefits is that there is nothing wrong with a man marrying a woman for her lineage, for her high status, so that his own status is raised by her, and so that the status of his children is also raised by her.
Among the benefits of this hadith is that a man may marry a woman for her beauty, and if he marries her for her beauty, there is no blame on him. Perhaps a man is one of those who are enamored with beauty, and he cannot guard his private parts or lower his gaze except for a woman of beauty, because men differ greatly in this regard.
Among the benefits of this hadith is that it is permissible for a man to marry a woman for her religion, for the sake of religion. Even if he has no purpose in marriage other than the woman’s religion, it is permissible for him to marry her for the sake of religion, is that right? Good.
Among the benefits of this hadith is that the highest of these purposes is to marry a woman for her religion, due to his saying:Sunan Ibn Majah 1858Sahih (Darussalam).
Among its benefits is that a person should strive to accept the Prophet’s (peace and blessings be upon him) advice to strive for a woman of religion, even though most people today only ask about beauty, and even though some of them marry for her wealth and lineage.
Good. Are these purposes limited, meaning that the purposes of marriage are limited to these? No. The hadith that came before this one says:. A man may marry a woman because she is among the women known for being kind to their husbands, is that not so? He wants a woman with whom his life is smooth through kindness, contentment, and following what the husband desires. Likewise, fertility, as mentioned before. A man may also marry a woman for the sake of learning. How? A woman who has knowledge, having obtained a high degree, and the man has only a third-grade primary school certificate. He marries her for what? For learning. This is correct. Good. And he may marry her for the sake of the custody of his children, such as if the mother of his children has died, so he marries her for the sake of the children’s custody.
The important thing is that the purposes are many, but the Messenger (may Allah’s prayers and peace be upon him) mentioned the predominant purposes, the most common ones. May Allah have mercy on you. Otherwise, there are many varied purposes.
The important thing is that whenever a man marries a woman for a purpose that is intended by the Shari'ah, it is permissible. But the best is that he marries her for religion. Good. What if he marries her for singing, a female singer, and he is a man who is fond of music and loves singing?
The student: It is forbidden.
The Shaykh : It is forbidden. This is forbidden, because a female singer is not permissible, unless the man wants to marry this woman in order to call her to be saved from this thing. Because some people may marry her, saying, “May Allah guide her through his hands,” but we fear that...
The student: ...
The Shaykh : Yes, that is correct.
The questioner : Female teachers now, I mean, if a man marries... a woman of wealth...
Among its benefits is that there is no blame on a man if he marries a woman for her wealth, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) approved of this man and did not disapprove of it, but he encouraged seeking a woman of religion.
Likewise, among its benefits is that there is nothing wrong with a man marrying a woman for her lineage, for her high status, so that his own status is raised by her, and so that the status of his children is also raised by her.
Among the benefits of this hadith is that a man may marry a woman for her beauty, and if he marries her for her beauty, there is no blame on him. Perhaps a man is one of those who are enamored with beauty, and he cannot guard his private parts or lower his gaze except for a woman of beauty, because men differ greatly in this regard.
Among the benefits of this hadith is that it is permissible for a man to marry a woman for her religion, for the sake of religion. Even if he has no purpose in marriage other than the woman’s religion, it is permissible for him to marry her for the sake of religion, is that right? Good.
Among the benefits of this hadith is that the highest of these purposes is to marry a woman for her religion, due to his saying:
Choose the religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).
فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداكAmong its benefits is that a person should strive to accept the Prophet’s (peace and blessings be upon him) advice to strive for a woman of religion, even though most people today only ask about beauty, and even though some of them marry for her wealth and lineage.
Good. Are these purposes limited, meaning that the purposes of marriage are limited to these? No. The hadith that came before this one says:
Marry the loving and fertile women
تزوجوا الودود الولودThe important thing is that the purposes are many, but the Messenger (may Allah’s prayers and peace be upon him) mentioned the predominant purposes, the most common ones. May Allah have mercy on you. Otherwise, there are many varied purposes.
The important thing is that whenever a man marries a woman for a purpose that is intended by the Shari'ah, it is permissible. But the best is that he marries her for religion. Good. What if he marries her for singing, a female singer, and he is a man who is fond of music and loves singing?
The student: It is forbidden.
The Shaykh : It is forbidden. This is forbidden, because a female singer is not permissible, unless the man wants to marry this woman in order to call her to be saved from this thing. Because some people may marry her, saying, “May Allah guide her through his hands,” but we fear that...
The student: ...
The Shaykh : Yes, that is correct.
The questioner : Female teachers now, I mean, if a man marries... a woman of wealth...
