Benefits of the Hadith: (Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) said: A man divorced his wife three times, then another man married her, and then he divorced her before consummating the marriage...)
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The Shaykh : Now, among the benefits of this hadith is that one uses an euphemism for something one is shy to mention directly, by using what indicates it, as she said: Sunan Ibn Majah 1933Sahih (Darussalam) The meaning of "consummating" is sexual intercourse. This is also how it came in the Qur'an: [An-Nisa 4:23].
Among the benefits of this hadith is that if she married another husband and stayed with him for a year or more, and then he divorced her without sexual intercourse, she does not become lawful for the first husband; sexual intercourse is necessary.
And among the benefits of this hadith is that if a person performs an action that is contrary to the Shari'ah, but he believes it to be valid, then his action is not considered. Here, when this woman was divorced, she thought that this action would make her lawful for the first husband, so the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) clarified that she does not become lawful for him until he consummates the marriage with her.
Can we derive from this hadith what they call the honeymoon?
The student: No.
The Shaykh : He said:Sahih Muslim 1433f The answer: It appears that this is not derived from it; it is not derived, because his tasting of her "sweetness" may occur in one night, the first night. Therefore, it is not possible to take this hadith as evidence for what they call the honeymoon. Moreover, regarding this so-called honeymoon, many people who have money go outside the country and spend large amounts, and perhaps they do some reprehensible things, replacing gratitude for blessings with disbelief, may Allah protect us from that. And how good is what some people do—and I say "how good" meaning it is better than the others, though it has no basis in the Shari'ah—traveling with her, for example, to Makkah and Madinah, performing 'Umrah and visiting the Prophet's Mosque. But even so, we do not say that this is a prescribed matter; rather, we say: if you do it, this is better. Otherwise, praise be to Allah, the person remains in his country, at rest and safe.
And with this, the chapter ends, which you are calling upon us to discuss.
The student: ...
The Shaykh : Yes, how?
The student: ...
The Shaykh : Do you have a recitation now? Is it possible? ... No one raised their hand. Now we stopped at Aisha's hadith, the last thing was Aisha's hadith. Now let us take a discussion.
before consummating the marriage
قبل أن يدخل بهاof your wives unto whom you have gone in. But if you have not gone in unto them, there is no sin upon you
من نسآئكم اللاتي دخلتم بهن فلا جناح عليكمAmong the benefits of this hadith is that if she married another husband and stayed with him for a year or more, and then he divorced her without sexual intercourse, she does not become lawful for the first husband; sexual intercourse is necessary.
And among the benefits of this hadith is that if a person performs an action that is contrary to the Shari'ah, but he believes it to be valid, then his action is not considered. Here, when this woman was divorced, she thought that this action would make her lawful for the first husband, so the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) clarified that she does not become lawful for him until he consummates the marriage with her.
Can we derive from this hadith what they call the honeymoon?
The student: No.
The Shaykh : He said:
until the second one has tasted her sweetness
حتى يذوق الآخر من عسيلتهاAnd with this, the chapter ends, which you are calling upon us to discuss.
The student: ...
The Shaykh : Yes, how?
The student: ...
The Shaykh : Do you have a recitation now? Is it possible? ... No one raised their hand. Now we stopped at Aisha's hadith, the last thing was Aisha's hadith. Now let us take a discussion.