How a woman who has harmed other women should repent
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Question:
After this, a message was received by the program from Madinah al-Munawwarah, sent by one of the sisters. She says: Your sister Umm Husam from Madinah al-Munawwarah says about herself: I am a woman from Madinah al-Munawwarah, forty-five years old. My sons and daughters have grown up and reached maturity and full intellect, if Allah wills. But I have an excuse from before, which is that I interfere in what does not concern me. I do not want anyone to be better than me, and I cannot bear to see someone wearing a style like what others wear. I want everyone’s attention to be directed to me in every place. I raised my daughters in this manner. Now I admit that I am wrong and sinful. What should I do in terms of supplication and prayer, and how can I control my tongue from causing harm? May Allah reward you with good. How should I deal with those I have harmed, spoken about, or caused problems for? I ask you to guide and advise me, and I ask you to offer advice and guidance to those like me, so that Allah may accept my repentance and their repentance. May Allah reward you all with good and prolong your lives as guides and advisors. Peace be upon you.
Answer:
You must repent to Allah, seek His forgiveness, and feel remorse for the harm you have caused to others, just as other women, or men, are obligated to repent from the harm they have done. This is because Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, says: [Al-Ahzab: 58], whether the harm is through speech or through actions.
Therefore, it is obligatory to repent to Allah from this, and to make supplication for those you have harmed, supplicating for them and seeking forgiveness for them. If you know them and seek their pardon, that is more complete if seeking their pardon is feasible. You would say to them: Forgive me, pardon me, for I have backbitten you, I have harmed you by such and such, forgive me, pardon me. If this is feasible, it is obligatory.
As for if it is not feasible, because the person is not present, or because you do not know them at the present time, or because you fear that if you informed them, the fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) would increase and the evil would become greater, then making supplication for them, seeking forgiveness for them, and sending blessings upon them is sufficient, if Allah wills, along with sincere repentance. Yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
After this, a message was received by the program from Madinah al-Munawwarah, sent by one of the sisters. She says: Your sister Umm Husam from Madinah al-Munawwarah says about herself: I am a woman from Madinah al-Munawwarah, forty-five years old. My sons and daughters have grown up and reached maturity and full intellect, if Allah wills. But I have an excuse from before, which is that I interfere in what does not concern me. I do not want anyone to be better than me, and I cannot bear to see someone wearing a style like what others wear. I want everyone’s attention to be directed to me in every place. I raised my daughters in this manner. Now I admit that I am wrong and sinful. What should I do in terms of supplication and prayer, and how can I control my tongue from causing harm? May Allah reward you with good. How should I deal with those I have harmed, spoken about, or caused problems for? I ask you to guide and advise me, and I ask you to offer advice and guidance to those like me, so that Allah may accept my repentance and their repentance. May Allah reward you all with good and prolong your lives as guides and advisors. Peace be upon you.
Answer:
You must repent to Allah, seek His forgiveness, and feel remorse for the harm you have caused to others, just as other women, or men, are obligated to repent from the harm they have done. This is because Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, says:
And those who harm believing men and believing women for [something] other than what they have earned have certainly born upon themselves a slander and manifest sin.
وَالَّذِينَ يُؤْذُونَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتِ بِغَيْرِ مَا اكْتَسَبُوا فَقَدِ احْتَمَلُوا بُهْتَانًا وَإِثْمًا مُبِينًاTherefore, it is obligatory to repent to Allah from this, and to make supplication for those you have harmed, supplicating for them and seeking forgiveness for them. If you know them and seek their pardon, that is more complete if seeking their pardon is feasible. You would say to them: Forgive me, pardon me, for I have backbitten you, I have harmed you by such and such, forgive me, pardon me. If this is feasible, it is obligatory.
As for if it is not feasible, because the person is not present, or because you do not know them at the present time, or because you fear that if you informed them, the fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) would increase and the evil would become greater, then making supplication for them, seeking forgiveness for them, and sending blessings upon them is sufficient, if Allah wills, along with sincere repentance. Yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
Source
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