The Ruling on the Prospective Groom Seeing His Fiancée
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Question:
Our brother asks, saying: If a man goes to a house to propose marriage, and the proposal is completed, is he permitted to see his fiancée? Please guide us, may Allah reward you with good. What are the limits in this matter?
Answer:
Yes, he may see the fiancée before the proposal and after it, so that he may be certain of her goodness and feel reassured about her goodness and suitability. However, this must be without seclusion; it should not be in seclusion, but rather in the presence of her father, her mother, or someone else. He may see her face, her hands, and her feet; there is no harm in that. Even if he sees her hair, there is no blame on him—if Allah wills. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said in the authentic hadith: A man said to him that he had married a woman, meaning he intended to marry her. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: The man said: No. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah 6:1350.
The point is that the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded this. He commanded the prospective groom to look at what would incline him to marry the woman. It is well known that her face, her hands, her feet, and her hair are things that incline one to marry her if he is pleased with them. Yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
Our brother asks, saying: If a man goes to a house to propose marriage, and the proposal is completed, is he permitted to see his fiancée? Please guide us, may Allah reward you with good. What are the limits in this matter?
Answer:
Yes, he may see the fiancée before the proposal and after it, so that he may be certain of her goodness and feel reassured about her goodness and suitability. However, this must be without seclusion; it should not be in seclusion, but rather in the presence of her father, her mother, or someone else. He may see her face, her hands, and her feet; there is no harm in that. Even if he sees her hair, there is no blame on him—if Allah wills. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said in the authentic hadith: A man said to him that he had married a woman, meaning he intended to marry her. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Have you looked at her?
أنظرت إليها؟Go and look at her
اذهب فانظر إليهاWhen one of you proposes to a woman, if he is able to look at what would incline him to marry her, let him do so.
إذا خطب أحدكم المرأة، فإن استطاع أن ينظر منها إلى ما يدعوه إلى نكاحها؛ فليفعلThe point is that the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded this. He commanded the prospective groom to look at what would incline him to marry the woman. It is well known that her face, her hands, her feet, and her hair are things that incline one to marry her if he is pleased with them. Yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
Source
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