The ruling on maintaining ties with relatives who neglect performing the congregational prayer in the mosque
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Question:
A man has relatives who neglect performing the congregational prayer in the mosque and fall into many sins and wrongdoings. How can this man maintain ties with his relatives while they are persisting in those forbidden acts? And how can he be dutiful to his parents if they are in this state?
Answer:
It is obligatory for him to maintain ties with them through wealth if they are poor, and to be kind to them. He must advise them, guide them to good, enjoin what is right, and forbid what is wrong, whether this is with his parents, brothers, maternal uncles, paternal uncles, or others. It is obligatory for him to call them to Allah, advise them, enjoin what is right, and forbid what is wrong with gentleness, kindness, and a good manner, so that perhaps Allah will guide them through these means. If they are poor, he should support them with wealth. If he has zakah, he should give them from the zakah if they are not his parents or his children, but rather his brothers, uncles, or the like.
The point is that he should win them over with wealth and kind words. If they are his parents or his children, he must advise them with kind words and a good manner, and strive to call them to Allah and advise them, showing them kindness and explaining the evil of what they have done. He should seek the help of his other relatives, such as his brothers or uncles, so that they can assist him in this matter, so that perhaps Allah will guide these people through their means. Because if he is alone, they may not respond to him, but if some of his relatives are with him, perhaps they will respond, and perhaps the call will be beneficial. If they persist in the wrong and do not respond to him, he may boycott them. However, he must do what is best as much as possible, except for his parents; he may not boycott them. Rather, he must strive to be dutiful to them and treat them with kindness in this world, so that perhaps Allah will guide them through these means. This is based on the saying of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) in Surat Luqman: [Luqman: 14-15].
So, the Exalted commanded in this noble verse to treat the parents with kindness even if they are disbelievers. This indicates the greatness of their right, the obligation of being dutiful to them, and the effort to bring about their well-being, even if they are disbelievers. As for the children, he must discipline them if he is able, if advice does not benefit them. This is based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):Sunan ad-Daraqutni 3:5 End of quote. And success is from Allah.
A man has relatives who neglect performing the congregational prayer in the mosque and fall into many sins and wrongdoings. How can this man maintain ties with his relatives while they are persisting in those forbidden acts? And how can he be dutiful to his parents if they are in this state?
Answer:
It is obligatory for him to maintain ties with them through wealth if they are poor, and to be kind to them. He must advise them, guide them to good, enjoin what is right, and forbid what is wrong, whether this is with his parents, brothers, maternal uncles, paternal uncles, or others. It is obligatory for him to call them to Allah, advise them, enjoin what is right, and forbid what is wrong with gentleness, kindness, and a good manner, so that perhaps Allah will guide them through these means. If they are poor, he should support them with wealth. If he has zakah, he should give them from the zakah if they are not his parents or his children, but rather his brothers, uncles, or the like.
The point is that he should win them over with wealth and kind words. If they are his parents or his children, he must advise them with kind words and a good manner, and strive to call them to Allah and advise them, showing them kindness and explaining the evil of what they have done. He should seek the help of his other relatives, such as his brothers or uncles, so that they can assist him in this matter, so that perhaps Allah will guide these people through their means. Because if he is alone, they may not respond to him, but if some of his relatives are with him, perhaps they will respond, and perhaps the call will be beneficial. If they persist in the wrong and do not respond to him, he may boycott them. However, he must do what is best as much as possible, except for his parents; he may not boycott them. Rather, he must strive to be dutiful to them and treat them with kindness in this world, so that perhaps Allah will guide them through these means. This is based on the saying of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) in Surat Luqman:
And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.
وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنْسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَى وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ So, the Exalted commanded in this noble verse to treat the parents with kindness even if they are disbelievers. This indicates the greatness of their right, the obligation of being dutiful to them, and the effort to bring about their well-being, even if they are disbelievers. As for the children, he must discipline them if he is able, if advice does not benefit them. This is based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):
Command your children to pray at seven, beat them for it at ten, and separate them in their beds.
مروا أولادكم بالصلاة لسبع واضربوهم عليها لعشر وفرقوا بينهم في المضاجع
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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