I swore not to greet my female colleagues, then I greeted them
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She says: I swore by Allah that I would not greet one of my female colleagues because of a dispute between us. Days passed, and she met me, so I greeted her. What is the expiation for swearing by Allah?
Answer: You must pay the expiation for an oath, which is feeding ten poor people, or clothing them, or freeing a slave. Feeding means half a sa' (a dry measure of about 3 kg) for each of the ten, which is approximately one and a half kilograms, or a shirt that is sufficient for prayer, or freeing a believing slave. And whoever is unable to do all of that and becomes poor, he cannot fast three days.
It is not permissible for you to boycott your sister in Allah without right. If she has wronged you, then forgiveness is good. There is no harm in boycotting for three days when necessary, but increasing beyond three days is not permissible. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sahih Muslim 2560a.
So it is obligatory for you not to boycott her for your own benefit, or for her wronging you, or the like, for more than three days. And if you reconcile with her, you must expiate your oath with the expiation of an oath, as mentioned previously.
As for if the boycott is for the sake of Allah, because she displays sins, or because she has some religious innovations, and you boycotted her for the sake of Allah until she repents, then this has no limit, neither three days nor any other limit. Its limit is repentance; when she repents, you greet her. And as long as she openly displays sins, she deserves to be boycotted, whether for a year, two years, or more. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) boycotted three of the Companions who lagged behind in the expedition, meaning in jihad, without a valid religious excuse. He boycotted them for fifty nights, peace and blessings be upon him, until Allah accepted their repentance.
So the point is: if the boycott is for the sake of the self, for a dispute, or for a word that a person slips into against his brother, or a woman slips into against her sister, this is limited to three days, and increasing beyond that is not permissible. But if the boycott is for the sake of Allah, for sins and religious innovations, then it has no limit except repentance. When the one who commits the sin or innovation repents, you greet him. Unless the boycott increases the evil, or increases the affliction, in which case boycotting is not prescribed. Rather, you continue advising, forbidding evil, and directing to good until the evil decreases or disappears. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
Answer: You must pay the expiation for an oath, which is feeding ten poor people, or clothing them, or freeing a slave. Feeding means half a sa' (a dry measure of about 3 kg) for each of the ten, which is approximately one and a half kilograms, or a shirt that is sufficient for prayer, or freeing a believing slave. And whoever is unable to do all of that and becomes poor, he cannot fast three days.
It is not permissible for you to boycott your sister in Allah without right. If she has wronged you, then forgiveness is good. There is no harm in boycotting for three days when necessary, but increasing beyond three days is not permissible. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
It is not permissible for a Muslim to have estranged relations with his brother beyond three nights, the one turning one way and the other turning the other way when they meet; the better of the two is one who is the first to give a greeting.
لا يحل لمسلم أن يهجر أخاه فوق ثلاث، يلتقيان فيعرض هذا ويعرض هذا وخيرهما الذي يبدأ بالسلامSo it is obligatory for you not to boycott her for your own benefit, or for her wronging you, or the like, for more than three days. And if you reconcile with her, you must expiate your oath with the expiation of an oath, as mentioned previously.
As for if the boycott is for the sake of Allah, because she displays sins, or because she has some religious innovations, and you boycotted her for the sake of Allah until she repents, then this has no limit, neither three days nor any other limit. Its limit is repentance; when she repents, you greet her. And as long as she openly displays sins, she deserves to be boycotted, whether for a year, two years, or more. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) boycotted three of the Companions who lagged behind in the expedition, meaning in jihad, without a valid religious excuse. He boycotted them for fifty nights, peace and blessings be upon him, until Allah accepted their repentance.
So the point is: if the boycott is for the sake of the self, for a dispute, or for a word that a person slips into against his brother, or a woman slips into against her sister, this is limited to three days, and increasing beyond that is not permissible. But if the boycott is for the sake of Allah, for sins and religious innovations, then it has no limit except repentance. When the one who commits the sin or innovation repents, you greet him. Unless the boycott increases the evil, or increases the affliction, in which case boycotting is not prescribed. Rather, you continue advising, forbidding evil, and directing to good until the evil decreases or disappears. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
Source
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