What advice is given to one who is influenced by companionship, whether good or bad?
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Question:
I bear witness to Allah that I love you for His sake, and I ask you to answer this question for me. I am a young man, and praise be to Allah, one of the righteous youth, but I find myself turning into a follower of the devils. This is because I keep the company of some wicked people, and I am with them in all or most of their deeds. However, when I attend the gatherings of the righteous, I turn into a righteous young man. What is your advice to me and to young men like me? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
As for the love, the answer regarding that has already been given. We say: May Allah love you, for you loved us for His sake.
Here is a note: When a person says, "I am among the righteous" or "I am among the believers," he should say, "if Allah wills." The people of the Sunnah and the community make this exception; because being righteous or being a believer, and testifying to oneself with that, is a matter of concern. One may have fallen short in that without knowing it, and one does not know how his end will be sealed. So let him say, "I am among the righteous, if Allah wills," or "I am among the believers, if Allah wills," as a precaution against any shortcoming that may occur, such as leaving an obligatory act or committing a forbidden act. Righteousness is only completed by fulfilling the rights of Allah and the rights of His servants. And who is able to say, "I have fulfilled the rights of Allah and the rights of His servants"? Likewise, faith is completed by fulfilling the rights of Allah and the rights of His servants.
As for what you mentioned: It is obligatory for you, my brother, to beware of the company of the devils and to stay away from them. You must keep the company of the good until you are safe from the evil of the wicked. It came in the hadith, from him (peace and blessings be upon him)—and it is the authentic hadith—that the example of the good companion and the example of the bad companion are like the owner of musk and the bellows blower. So choose for yourself to be with the people of musk, who will either give you some, or you will buy some from them, or you will find a pleasant scent from them. And beware of being with the people of the bellows: either they will burn your clothes, or you will find a foul smell from them.
And in another hadith, he (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Al-Mustadrak lil-Hakim 33:79. And the poet says:
Do not ask about a man, but ask about his companion
For every companion follows the one he keeps company with
The bad companions were the cause of the misguidance of Abu Talib, the uncle of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). They sat with him when he was dying and taught him to be fanatical about the religion of his people, until he said to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), "I am upon the religion of 'Abd al-Muttalib," and he refused to say, "There is no god but Allah," because of the bad companions.
So it is obligatory for the believer, and for the student of knowledge, and for every Muslim, to beware of bad companions, to stay away from them, and not to keep their company. He should choose for himself companions of good. If he does not find them, let him stay in his house, and not go out except for a need, or for prayer, or for what Allah has prescribed in other matters. And let him not take companions who will mislead him and turn him away from the truth.
I bear witness to Allah that I love you for His sake, and I ask you to answer this question for me. I am a young man, and praise be to Allah, one of the righteous youth, but I find myself turning into a follower of the devils. This is because I keep the company of some wicked people, and I am with them in all or most of their deeds. However, when I attend the gatherings of the righteous, I turn into a righteous young man. What is your advice to me and to young men like me? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
As for the love, the answer regarding that has already been given. We say: May Allah love you, for you loved us for His sake.
Here is a note: When a person says, "I am among the righteous" or "I am among the believers," he should say, "if Allah wills." The people of the Sunnah and the community make this exception; because being righteous or being a believer, and testifying to oneself with that, is a matter of concern. One may have fallen short in that without knowing it, and one does not know how his end will be sealed. So let him say, "I am among the righteous, if Allah wills," or "I am among the believers, if Allah wills," as a precaution against any shortcoming that may occur, such as leaving an obligatory act or committing a forbidden act. Righteousness is only completed by fulfilling the rights of Allah and the rights of His servants. And who is able to say, "I have fulfilled the rights of Allah and the rights of His servants"? Likewise, faith is completed by fulfilling the rights of Allah and the rights of His servants.
As for what you mentioned: It is obligatory for you, my brother, to beware of the company of the devils and to stay away from them. You must keep the company of the good until you are safe from the evil of the wicked. It came in the hadith, from him (peace and blessings be upon him)—and it is the authentic hadith—that the example of the good companion and the example of the bad companion are like the owner of musk and the bellows blower. So choose for yourself to be with the people of musk, who will either give you some, or you will buy some from them, or you will find a pleasant scent from them. And beware of being with the people of the bellows: either they will burn your clothes, or you will find a foul smell from them.
And in another hadith, he (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends
المرء على دين خليله، فلينظر أحدُكم مَن يُخاللDo not ask about a man, but ask about his companion
For every companion follows the one he keeps company with
The bad companions were the cause of the misguidance of Abu Talib, the uncle of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). They sat with him when he was dying and taught him to be fanatical about the religion of his people, until he said to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), "I am upon the religion of 'Abd al-Muttalib," and he refused to say, "There is no god but Allah," because of the bad companions.
So it is obligatory for the believer, and for the student of knowledge, and for every Muslim, to beware of bad companions, to stay away from them, and not to keep their company. He should choose for himself companions of good. If he does not find them, let him stay in his house, and not go out except for a need, or for prayer, or for what Allah has prescribed in other matters. And let him not take companions who will mislead him and turn him away from the truth.
Source
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