The ruling on the deceased's family holding mourning gatherings and feasts after the burial

The following message was received by the program from Hadramaut, sent by our brothers: Salem ibn Ali Ba'Abud Ba'Wazir and his brothers: Mubarak Saleh ibn Nabil and Al-Abd Saleh. Our brothers' message is a full page, and it all depicts the customs people follow after the death of one of their own. They are even forced to borrow money for the celebrations that are held, the food, the drink, and so on, even if the deceased was poor and left nothing behind. What does Your Eminence, the Shaykh, say about these customs, if you would be so kind?
Answer: We have written many answers on this, and we have alerted people on this program many times that it is not permissible to hold celebrations upon the death of any person. It is not for the deceased's family to hold a celebration ...... for it, nor to slaughter animals, nor to prepare food for people. All of this is among the religious innovations and ignorances that some people used to do, and it is from the matters of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance.
It is established from Jarir ibn 'Abd Allah al-Bajli (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: So it was from the practices of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance and from the wailing that they used to do in the pre-Islamic age of ignorance.
So it is obligatory for the Muslims when a person dies to ask Allah for his forgiveness and mercy, and to leave these celebrations and these foods that are prepared by the deceased's family. The deceased may be poor, and he may have orphans, in which case they harm them. The point is that these practices have no basis, even if the deceased was rich; they have no basis, and they should not be done, and it is not permissible to do them. However, it is prescribed for their neighbors and relatives to prepare food for them, because they are occupied with the calamity. For this reason, it is established from the hadith of Abdullah ibn Ja'far ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with them both) that when the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) received the news of Ja'far's death when he was killed at Mu'tah, and the news reached Medina, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered his family to prepare food for the family of Ja'far. He said: So if food is prepared for them by their neighbors or relatives and sent to them, because they are occupied with the calamity, then this is recommended, and this is a recommended practice. As for the deceased's family, they have no right to prepare food, and they should not prepare food for people. However, if they prepare it for themselves to eat, or for guests who have stayed with them, there is nothing wrong with that. But if they prepare it for the sake of the deceased, as a mourning gathering for the deceased to wail over him, or to hold poetry and dirges for him, or to invite people to that, all of this is from religious innovations, all of this is from ignorances and from the matters of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance, and it is not permissible. As for their preparing food for themselves to eat, as their custom, there is nothing wrong with that. Or if a guest stayed with them, and they prepared food for the guest, not for the death, nor for the wailing, nor for gathering people, but for the guest who stayed, if they prepare food to feed the guest, there is nothing wrong with that, because he came from far away.
So the point of all this is that the wrong thing is for them to prepare it for people. The deceased's family preparing food to gather the neighbors or relatives, or to wail, or to recite, or otherwise, this is the wrong thing, this is the pre-Islamic age of ignorance.
As for their preparing food for their own need, for their usual eating, or if a guest stayed with them and they were forced to prepare food for him to honor him because he came from far away, then there is no blame in that. And it is not befitting for the people of faith and the people of Islam to make a habit of the matters of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance and to do the matters of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance. No, rather they should advise one another, and rather they should advise one another to leave the matters of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance. This is how it should be for the Muslims.
And as for their neighbors and relatives, it is recommended for them to prepare food for them and send it to them, because they are occupied with the calamity. This, if it is easy, is better, and this is a recommended practice. Yes.