Combining Aisha's visit to the graves with the prohibition of visiting them
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Question:
How is it reconciled with the reports that Aisha visited graves, given the hadiths that forbid it?
Answer:
Aisha did not visit graves; she only visited her brother's grave because he had died while she was absent from him, near Makkah. She said, "If I had witnessed it, I would not have visited you," meaning: If I had witnessed your death, I would not have visited you. This indicates that visiting graves is not prescribed for women; therefore, she said, "If I had witnessed it, I would not have visited you."
If visiting graves had been prescribed for women, she would have visited him absolutely, even if she had witnessed it, just as women should visit al-Baqi' and the martyrs. However, women did not visit al-Baqi' or the graves of the martyrs during the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) or during the time of the Caliphs. Thus, it is known that it was established among them that women visiting graves is not prescribed.
The wisdom in this, and Allah knows best, is that women, as the scholars of the majlis said, are few in patience and weak in insight. If they visited graves, they might engage in excessive grief, wailing, uncovering, and displaying adornment, leading to undesirable consequences. They are a source of fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), so out of Allah's mercy, they were prevented from following funerals and visiting graves. If they had followed funerals, fitnah might have occurred among those walking in the funeral procession, as it is rare for a woman to be concerned with covering, hijab, and modesty. Similarly, when visiting graves, fitnah occurs due to their mixing with men during the visit and during the funeral procession.
The wisdom, and Allah knows best, follows from the fact that they are a source of fitnah, few in patience, and few in considering the consequences. They might weep and wail over the deceased, which harms him. They might also reveal some fitnah from their hair or bodies, thereby tempting living men and harming the deceased with their wailing and lack of patience. Your Lord is Wise and Knowing, Exalted and Majestic is He.
How is it reconciled with the reports that Aisha visited graves, given the hadiths that forbid it?
Answer:
Aisha did not visit graves; she only visited her brother's grave because he had died while she was absent from him, near Makkah. She said, "If I had witnessed it, I would not have visited you," meaning: If I had witnessed your death, I would not have visited you. This indicates that visiting graves is not prescribed for women; therefore, she said, "If I had witnessed it, I would not have visited you."
If visiting graves had been prescribed for women, she would have visited him absolutely, even if she had witnessed it, just as women should visit al-Baqi' and the martyrs. However, women did not visit al-Baqi' or the graves of the martyrs during the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) or during the time of the Caliphs. Thus, it is known that it was established among them that women visiting graves is not prescribed.
The wisdom in this, and Allah knows best, is that women, as the scholars of the majlis said, are few in patience and weak in insight. If they visited graves, they might engage in excessive grief, wailing, uncovering, and displaying adornment, leading to undesirable consequences. They are a source of fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), so out of Allah's mercy, they were prevented from following funerals and visiting graves. If they had followed funerals, fitnah might have occurred among those walking in the funeral procession, as it is rare for a woman to be concerned with covering, hijab, and modesty. Similarly, when visiting graves, fitnah occurs due to their mixing with men during the visit and during the funeral procession.
The wisdom, and Allah knows best, follows from the fact that they are a source of fitnah, few in patience, and few in considering the consequences. They might weep and wail over the deceased, which harms him. They might also reveal some fitnah from their hair or bodies, thereby tempting living men and harming the deceased with their wailing and lack of patience. Your Lord is Wise and Knowing, Exalted and Majestic is He.
Source
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