What is the wisdom behind prohibiting women from visiting graves, and what is said during the visit?
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The question: You also say in the same question: Does the prohibition also include the graves of the imams? Then you ask about the supplication that is said when visiting graves?
The answer: Yes, the prohibition includes the graves of the imams and others; it includes the graves of all people. It is not prescribed for a woman to visit graves in any case, not the grave of her father, nor the grave of her mother, nor any other grave. That is to say, women are prohibited from visiting all graves, whether in their own country or elsewhere. Visiting graves is exclusively for men.
Perhaps the wisdom in this—and Allah knows best—is that women have little patience, and men may be tempted by them. So it was part of the wisdom of Allah that He prohibited them from visiting graves so that graves would not become a place of temptation, nor a place of wailing, despair, and lack of patience. May Allah have mercy on women and spare them what may result from their visiting graves. This is unlike men, who are more patient and pose less danger when they visit graves than women do. Visiting graves serves as a reminder of the Hereafter and a reminder of death. A woman can remember death by praying over the dead in the mosques with the people, for a woman prays over the deceased in the mosque, in the prayer area. What is prohibited is her going to the graves, visiting the graves, and following the funeral processions to the graves. As for her praying over the deceased in the mosque or in the prayer area, this serves as a reminder and suffices in place of her going to the graves.
And likewise, she should always remember death, keep it in mind, and remember the Hereafter. All of this is sufficient, praise be to Allah, for remembering the Hereafter and preparing for it. As for the supplication, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) explained it. He taught his Companions that when they visit graves, they should say:, and sometimes he would add and say: Sahih Muslim 974a when he visited them. This is the prescribed supplication: he says: , or he says: May Allah forgive us and you, or May Allah forgive us and you, or May Allah have mercy on us and on you. All of this is good speech. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you.
The answer: Yes, the prohibition includes the graves of the imams and others; it includes the graves of all people. It is not prescribed for a woman to visit graves in any case, not the grave of her father, nor the grave of her mother, nor any other grave. That is to say, women are prohibited from visiting all graves, whether in their own country or elsewhere. Visiting graves is exclusively for men.
Perhaps the wisdom in this—and Allah knows best—is that women have little patience, and men may be tempted by them. So it was part of the wisdom of Allah that He prohibited them from visiting graves so that graves would not become a place of temptation, nor a place of wailing, despair, and lack of patience. May Allah have mercy on women and spare them what may result from their visiting graves. This is unlike men, who are more patient and pose less danger when they visit graves than women do. Visiting graves serves as a reminder of the Hereafter and a reminder of death. A woman can remember death by praying over the dead in the mosques with the people, for a woman prays over the deceased in the mosque, in the prayer area. What is prohibited is her going to the graves, visiting the graves, and following the funeral processions to the graves. As for her praying over the deceased in the mosque or in the prayer area, this serves as a reminder and suffices in place of her going to the graves.
And likewise, she should always remember death, keep it in mind, and remember the Hereafter. All of this is sufficient, praise be to Allah, for remembering the Hereafter and preparing for it. As for the supplication, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) explained it. He taught his Companions that when they visit graves, they should say:
Peace be upon you, O people of the abode, from among the believers and the Muslims. And we, if Allah wills, are to follow you. May Allah have mercy on those of us who have gone before and those who come after. We ask Allah for well-being for us and for you.
السلام عليكم أهل الديار من المؤمنين والمسلمين، وإنا إن شاء الله بكم لاحقون، يرحم الله المستقدمين منا والمستأخرين، نسأل الله لنا ولكم العافيةO Allah, grant forgiveness to the inhabitants of Baqi' al-Gharqad.
اللهم اغفر لأهل بقيع الغرقدPeace be upon you, O people of the abode, from among the believers and the Muslims, and indeed, if Allah wills, we will be joining you. May Allah have mercy on those of us who have gone before and those who come after. We ask Allah for well-being for us and for you.
السلام عليكم أهل الديار من المؤمنين والمسلمين وإنا إن شاء الله بكم لاحقون، يرحم الله المستقدمين منا والمستأخرين، نسأل الله لنا ولكم العافيةThe presenter: May Allah reward you.
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