The Ruling on Saying, “You Are Forbidden to Me”
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Question:
He said: “You are forbidden to me, like the prohibition of a daughter to her father.” I hope you will inform me, with your permissiveness, what is required of me in this matter, and what is the expiation for this oath? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon the Messenger of Allah, upon his family and his Companions, and upon those who follow his guidance. As for what follows:
This phrase and its like are considered, according to the correct opinion of the scholars, to be zihar. It carries the ruling of zihar that Allah explained in His great Book in Surat al-Mujadilah. If a man says to his wife, “You are forbidden to me, like my daughter,” or “like my sister,” or simply “You are forbidden to me,” and he utters this, then its ruling is the ruling of zihar. He must repent to Allah for this, because this is an abomination and a lie; she is not forbidden to him. Allah has made her lawful to him through the lawful marriage contract.
His saying that she is forbidden to him is an error on his part, and it is not permissible for him to do so; it is an abomination. Therefore, it is obligatory for him to repent from it. For this reason, the Exalted says: [al-Mujadilah: 2]. He must also perform the expiation that Allah explained in His great Book, which is freeing a believing slave. If he is unable to do so, he must fast for two consecutive months, sixty days. If he is unable to do that, he must feed sixty poor people, giving each poor person half a sa' of the local staple food, such as dates, rice, wheat, or the like. If he feeds them more than that, there is no harm.
The point is that he must feed sixty poor people, either by providing them dinner or breakfast, or by giving them half a sa' of the local staple food. If he provides them with a side dish, that is better. All of this is in order; it is in order, not a matter of choice.
First: freeing a slave, if it is easy. If it is not easy, then fasting. If he is unable to do that for reasons that necessitate it, he moves to feeding before he touches her. He must not approach her, neither by kissing nor by intercourse, and he must not take any pleasure from her until he performs this expiation along with sincere, earnest repentance to the Exalted Allah for this act. Because Allah said: [al-Mujadilah: 3].
Question : Does the value of money not suffice in place of feeding?
Answer: No, the value does not suffice. The obligatory thing is freeing a slave, then fasting, then feeding.
He said: “You are forbidden to me, like the prohibition of a daughter to her father.” I hope you will inform me, with your permissiveness, what is required of me in this matter, and what is the expiation for this oath? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon the Messenger of Allah, upon his family and his Companions, and upon those who follow his guidance. As for what follows:
This phrase and its like are considered, according to the correct opinion of the scholars, to be zihar. It carries the ruling of zihar that Allah explained in His great Book in Surat al-Mujadilah. If a man says to his wife, “You are forbidden to me, like my daughter,” or “like my sister,” or simply “You are forbidden to me,” and he utters this, then its ruling is the ruling of zihar. He must repent to Allah for this, because this is an abomination and a lie; she is not forbidden to him. Allah has made her lawful to him through the lawful marriage contract.
His saying that she is forbidden to him is an error on his part, and it is not permissible for him to do so; it is an abomination. Therefore, it is obligatory for him to repent from it. For this reason, the Exalted says:
And indeed, they are saying an objectionable statement and a falsehood.
وَإِنَّهُمْ لَيَقُولُونَ مُنْكَرًا مِنَ الْقَوْلِ وَزُورًاThe point is that he must feed sixty poor people, either by providing them dinner or breakfast, or by giving them half a sa' of the local staple food. If he provides them with a side dish, that is better. All of this is in order; it is in order, not a matter of choice.
First: freeing a slave, if it is easy. If it is not easy, then fasting. If he is unable to do that for reasons that necessitate it, he moves to feeding before he touches her. He must not approach her, neither by kissing nor by intercourse, and he must not take any pleasure from her until he performs this expiation along with sincere, earnest repentance to the Exalted Allah for this act. Because Allah said:
before they touch one another
مِنْ قَبْلِ أَنْ يَتَمَاسَّاQuestion : Does the value of money not suffice in place of feeding?
Answer: No, the value does not suffice. The obligatory thing is freeing a slave, then fasting, then feeding.
Source
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