The Meaning of Aisha’s (may Allah be pleased with her) Statement: “He Kissed Me and Touched Me”
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Fatwa Number ( 13896 )
Q: What is the meaning of the statement of Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her): . al-Bukhari , and what is the meaning of the word: (baasharaani) in this hadith in detail? Please inform us, may Allah reward you with the best reward.
A: It is established that there is a dispensation for the fasting person to kiss and touch, provided it is less than intercourse; if he fears that his desire will be stirred and spread. It is established from Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that she said:Bulugh al-Maram 5:15 And it is established from 'Amr ibn Abi Salama (may Allah be pleased with them both), And a fatwa has been issued from us
in detail regarding the ruling on kissing and touching for the fasting person. The text of it is: (Whoever has desire and it is predominant in his mind that if he kisses his wife or touches her in a manner less than the private parts, he will ejaculate – it is forbidden for him to do so while fasting in Ramadan. And whoever has desire and it is not predominant in his mind that he will discharge, but he does not feel safe that it may happen to him – kissing and the like of the preliminaries of intercourse are disliked for him; and that is because completing his fast and preserving it is among the obligations, and touching his wife with a kiss and the like in a manner less than intercourse exposes him to invalidating his fast in these two cases, even if the degree of that and its invalidation of an obligatory fast differs – it is not permissible. As for whoever kissing and the like does not stir his desire; because he controls his urge, or because he is severely weak due to illness or old age – he may kiss his wife and touch her in a manner less than intercourse. And this is the case to which is attributed what is established from Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that she said:Bulugh al-Maram 5:15 Narrated by al-Bukhari and Muslim . For the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) controlled his desire and did not fear that it would lead him to intercourse and discharge, so kissing and the like of the preliminaries of intercourse were permissible, and it was permissible for those of his community who were in his position. And Abu Dawud narrated from Abu Hurayrah : Mishkat al-Masabih 2006 . In any case, if one does that and does not discharge, his fast is valid. And if he ejaculates, his fast is invalid and he must perform the full ritual bath and make up the fast. As for whoever discharges pre-seminal fluid, his fast is not invalid according to the correct opinion. And may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions. And success is from Allah, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions.
Q: What is the meaning of the statement of Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her):
He kissed me and touched me
قبلني وباشرنيA: It is established that there is a dispensation for the fasting person to kiss and touch, provided it is less than intercourse; if he fears that his desire will be stirred and spread. It is established from Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that she said:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) would kiss and embrace (his wives) while fasting, for he had the most control of all of you over his desires.
كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقبل وهو صائم، ويباشر وهو صائم، ولكنه كان أملككم لإربهThat he asked the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him): Does the fasting person kiss? He said to him: Ask this Umm Salama. She informed him that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) does that. He said: O Messenger of Allah, Allah has forgiven you for what has passed of your sin and what remains. He said to him: By Allah, I am the most of you in fear of Allah and the most of you in awe of Him
أنه سأل رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: أيقبل الصائم؟ فقال له: سل هذه لأم سلمة ، فأخبرته أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يفعل ذلك، فقال: يا رسول الله: قد غفر الله لك ما تقدم من ذنبك وما تأخر، فقال له: أما والله إني لأتقاكم لله وأخشاكم لهin detail regarding the ruling on kissing and touching for the fasting person. The text of it is: (Whoever has desire and it is predominant in his mind that if he kisses his wife or touches her in a manner less than the private parts, he will ejaculate – it is forbidden for him to do so while fasting in Ramadan. And whoever has desire and it is not predominant in his mind that he will discharge, but he does not feel safe that it may happen to him – kissing and the like of the preliminaries of intercourse are disliked for him; and that is because completing his fast and preserving it is among the obligations, and touching his wife with a kiss and the like in a manner less than intercourse exposes him to invalidating his fast in these two cases, even if the degree of that and its invalidation of an obligatory fast differs – it is not permissible. As for whoever kissing and the like does not stir his desire; because he controls his urge, or because he is severely weak due to illness or old age – he may kiss his wife and touch her in a manner less than intercourse. And this is the case to which is attributed what is established from Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that she said:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) would kiss and embrace (his wives) while fasting, for he had the most control of all of you over his desires.
كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقبل وهو صائم، وكان أملككم لإربهthat a man asked the Prophet whether one who was fasting might embrace his wife and he gave him permission, but when another came to him and asked him he forbade him. The one to whom he gave permission was an old man and the one whom he forbade was a youth.
أن رجلاً سأل النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم عن المباشرة للصائم فرخص له، وأتاه آخر فسأله فنهاه؛ فإذا الذي رخص له شيخ، وإذا الذي نهاه شاب
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