She says that it was Allah's decree for her, and she married a man whom she discovered after the marriage did not pray and did not fear Allah in his words or actions, and she has been with him for a year.
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The questioner : She says that it was Allah's decree for her, and she married a man whom she discovered after the marriage did not pray and did not fear Allah in his words or actions, and she has been with him for a year and a half. She gave birth to a male child from him. In response to the desire of her father and mother, who are known for their sweet-talking words while their actions are those of evildoers.
The Shaykh : We seek refuge in Allah.
The questioner : She has refrained from going to her parents' home, knowing that it is only about one hundred meters away from her.
The Shaykh : You have refrained from going to your parents' home?
The questioner : Yes, her husband said to her, "Choose between me and your family," so she became confused. What is the sin of her family that she should cut them off and be deprived of them without sin? She says, "Guide us: should I cut off my family and stay with this wicked husband, or should I leave my husband and my child and go to my parents' home without returning?"
The Shaykh : This husband whom you described is not a husband to you.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : This is because you married him, and it became clear afterwards that he did not pray. Any person who does not pray, if he contracts a marriage with a woman, his marriage is not valid, and there is no marital relationship between them. Accordingly, the marriage is considered invalid from the beginning. This is because Allah says:[Al-Mumtahanah 60:10] And the Exalted said: [Al-Baqarah 2:221] So your marriage is invalid, and he is not your husband, and he has no right to your obedience. It is obligatory for you to separate from him and return to your family. Then, if Allah guides him to Islam, and he believes in Allah and His Messenger, and establishes the prayer, a new contract is made for you with him, and you remain with him, if Allah wills, in happiness and safety.
And I advise this man; I advise him to fear Allah the Mighty and Majestic, and to know that Islam is not merely the utterance of the words: "There is no god but Allah, and Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah." For the mere utterance of that is not sufficient if the person commits an act that entails disbelief, whether this act of disbelief is practical, an action of the limbs, or an action of the heart. He must repent to Allah, believe in Him, establish the prayer, give zakah, fast Ramadan, perform Hajj to the House, and uphold the laws and rituals of Islam. Then he marries this woman anew. And success is from Allah.
The questioner : May Allah bless you. This is a question from the listener Muhammad Sulayman al-Shamri from Jeddah.
The Shaykh : We seek refuge in Allah.
The questioner : She has refrained from going to her parents' home, knowing that it is only about one hundred meters away from her.
The Shaykh : You have refrained from going to your parents' home?
The questioner : Yes, her husband said to her, "Choose between me and your family," so she became confused. What is the sin of her family that she should cut them off and be deprived of them without sin? She says, "Guide us: should I cut off my family and stay with this wicked husband, or should I leave my husband and my child and go to my parents' home without returning?"
The Shaykh : This husband whom you described is not a husband to you.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : This is because you married him, and it became clear afterwards that he did not pray. Any person who does not pray, if he contracts a marriage with a woman, his marriage is not valid, and there is no marital relationship between them. Accordingly, the marriage is considered invalid from the beginning. This is because Allah says:
then do not return them to the disbelievers; they are not lawful [wives] for them, nor are they lawful [husbands] for them
فَلا تَرْجِعُوهُنَّ إِلَى الْكُفَّارِ لا هُنَّ حِلٌّ لَهُمْ وَلا هُمْ يَحِلُّونَ لَهُنَّAnd do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you.
وَلا تُنكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكِينَ حَتَّى يُؤْمِنُوا وَلَعَبْدٌ مُؤْمِنٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ مُشْرِكٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكُمْAnd I advise this man; I advise him to fear Allah the Mighty and Majestic, and to know that Islam is not merely the utterance of the words: "There is no god but Allah, and Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah." For the mere utterance of that is not sufficient if the person commits an act that entails disbelief, whether this act of disbelief is practical, an action of the limbs, or an action of the heart. He must repent to Allah, believe in Him, establish the prayer, give zakah, fast Ramadan, perform Hajj to the House, and uphold the laws and rituals of Islam. Then he marries this woman anew. And success is from Allah.
The questioner : May Allah bless you. This is a question from the listener Muhammad Sulayman al-Shamri from Jeddah.