If he fears for himself from the woman, should he refrain from staying the night with her?
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Fatwa number ( 10686 )
Q: I married a woman 25 years ago, and she bore me daughters and sons. All of them have married, except for the youngest son, who is on his way to getting married, if Allah wills. My life with my wife has been misery for the entire duration of this time; I have not been happy as other husbands are with their wives, to the point that what a man asks of his wife is not available to me. Then it was decreed for me to marry a second wife, and I found in her, by the grace of Allah, comfort and tranquility. I have been just between the two wives in what I am able to do, in food, drink, housing, and lodging.
One day, a short time after my most recent marriage, I was sitting with my first wife when she brought me a cup of milk. My soul was averted from drinking it by the grace of Allah, so I took it from her and offered it to one of my sons who was sitting beside me. When she saw that I had offered the cup to her son to drink, she snatched it from his hand forcefully and did not let him drink it. I realized that she had secretly put something in the cup that I do not know, either sorcery or poison. I became angry and wanted to hit her, but her sons stood between us and asked me to leave her alone out of respect for their feelings. They said, "Allah is the One who will hold her accountable for this action." After that, I abstained from her bed and from eating and drinking with her, out of fear of her harm, while providing her with all the food, drink, and clothing she needs. I did not want to divorce her because her parents are no longer alive, nor does she have any brothers, and out of respect for my children. The question, O honorable Shaykh, is: Do I bear any sin for not staying the night with her, and likewise for not eating and drinking with her? Knowing that she does not desire intercourse and her age is approximately 60 years.
A: If the situation is as you described, there is no blame on you for refraining from staying the night with her and eating and drinking with her, in order to preserve yourself.
And success is from Allah, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and his Companions.
Q: I married a woman 25 years ago, and she bore me daughters and sons. All of them have married, except for the youngest son, who is on his way to getting married, if Allah wills. My life with my wife has been misery for the entire duration of this time; I have not been happy as other husbands are with their wives, to the point that what a man asks of his wife is not available to me. Then it was decreed for me to marry a second wife, and I found in her, by the grace of Allah, comfort and tranquility. I have been just between the two wives in what I am able to do, in food, drink, housing, and lodging.
One day, a short time after my most recent marriage, I was sitting with my first wife when she brought me a cup of milk. My soul was averted from drinking it by the grace of Allah, so I took it from her and offered it to one of my sons who was sitting beside me. When she saw that I had offered the cup to her son to drink, she snatched it from his hand forcefully and did not let him drink it. I realized that she had secretly put something in the cup that I do not know, either sorcery or poison. I became angry and wanted to hit her, but her sons stood between us and asked me to leave her alone out of respect for their feelings. They said, "Allah is the One who will hold her accountable for this action." After that, I abstained from her bed and from eating and drinking with her, out of fear of her harm, while providing her with all the food, drink, and clothing she needs. I did not want to divorce her because her parents are no longer alive, nor does she have any brothers, and out of respect for my children. The question, O honorable Shaykh, is: Do I bear any sin for not staying the night with her, and likewise for not eating and drinking with her? Knowing that she does not desire intercourse and her age is approximately 60 years.
A: If the situation is as you described, there is no blame on you for refraining from staying the night with her and eating and drinking with her, in order to preserve yourself.
And success is from Allah, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and his Companions.
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