I contracted my marriage to a woman my mother does not approve of; not because of her religion, but simply because she does not like her.
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The questioner : The questioner says, honorableThe Shaykh : I contracted my marriage to a woman my mother does not approve of, not because of her religion.
The Shaykh : What?
The questioner : I contracted my marriage to a woman my mother does not approve of, not because of her religion, but simply because she does not like her.
The Shaykh : Why?
The questioner : She does not like her. What is your advice, O our Shaykh, given that I have already contracted the marriage? May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : I say: May Allah bless you both and join you together in goodness. No one interferes in the marriage contract. Neither the mother nor the father, unless they see something that compromises the religion, because this is a matter specific to the individual himself. Just as, for example, if his father says to him, "Do not eat rice," does he leave the rice? Answer, everyone. He does not leave the rice. This is a matter concerning the person himself and his individuality. So if a person wants to marry a woman and his mother says to him, "Do not marry her," he asks: Is there a defect in her religion or her chastity, or is there not? She says: No, there is nothing wrong with her. But I do not want her. We say: He marries her, and may Allah bless them both and join them together in goodness. However, it is obligatory for him thereafter to try to reconcile his wife and his mother so that the situation stabilizes and there is harmony between the man, his mother, and his wife. If this is not possible and their gathering in one house leads to discord and conflict, with discord in the morning and discord in the evening, then there is no blame on him if he lives separately in a residence with his wife. Yes.
The Shaykh : What?
The questioner : I contracted my marriage to a woman my mother does not approve of, not because of her religion, but simply because she does not like her.
The Shaykh : Why?
The questioner : She does not like her. What is your advice, O our Shaykh, given that I have already contracted the marriage? May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : I say: May Allah bless you both and join you together in goodness. No one interferes in the marriage contract. Neither the mother nor the father, unless they see something that compromises the religion, because this is a matter specific to the individual himself. Just as, for example, if his father says to him, "Do not eat rice," does he leave the rice? Answer, everyone. He does not leave the rice. This is a matter concerning the person himself and his individuality. So if a person wants to marry a woman and his mother says to him, "Do not marry her," he asks: Is there a defect in her religion or her chastity, or is there not? She says: No, there is nothing wrong with her. But I do not want her. We say: He marries her, and may Allah bless them both and join them together in goodness. However, it is obligatory for him thereafter to try to reconcile his wife and his mother so that the situation stabilizes and there is harmony between the man, his mother, and his wife. If this is not possible and their gathering in one house leads to discord and conflict, with discord in the morning and discord in the evening, then there is no blame on him if he lives separately in a residence with his wife. Yes.