Beating the Wife
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Question: I am a married man, and once there was a misunderstanding between me and my wife, so I beat her severely. Because of the intensity of her anger, she tore the clothes she was wearing. I have heard that whoever tears his clothes leaves the religion, and that he must go to a shaykh to have him recite verses from the Qur'an and Prophetic hadiths, and he repeats after him, so that the shaykh thereby returns him to his religion. Is this correct? And is there a sin on me for beating her severely, or not?
Answer: First: You made a mistake in your action of beating her, because it is not permissible for a husband to beat his wife except for a legitimate Shari'ah reason, and within the limit permitted by the Lawgiver, such as if she becomes defiant and refuses to obey him, and refuses to allow him to enjoy her in the Shari'ah manner,For Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) says: [Surat al-Nisa: 34] , so beating is the last stage, and it is a beating that does not cause harm, as the scholars have mentioned.
As for severe beating, or beating without a legitimate reason, this is not permissible; it is forbidden for a husband to do this to his wife.
As for what she did in tearing her clothes, this is a mistake on her part, because it is not permissible for a Muslim to tear his clothes when distressed, and this is from the actions of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance. It is obligatory for a Muslim to be patient, seek reward from Allah, and not tear his clothes when he is distressed or angry.
As for the claim that this causes one to leave the religion, as you asked, this is not correct; one does not leave the religion by doing this. However, this is a matter that is not permissible and is forbidden for him, but it does not cause him to leave the religion.
As for going to a shaykh to do such and such, this is a great mistake, and this is not from the religion of Islam. When a sinner commits a sin, he repents to Allah (Mighty and Majestic) without going to a shaykh. This is from the practice of the Christians who go to their monks and churches to have them absolve them of sin, as they claim.
As for the Muslim, Allah has commanded him to repent between himself and Him, with sincere repentance, and Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) accepts the repentance of whoever repents, and he does not need to go to a shaykh. And Allah knows best.
Answer: First: You made a mistake in your action of beating her, because it is not permissible for a husband to beat his wife except for a legitimate Shari'ah reason, and within the limit permitted by the Lawgiver, such as if she becomes defiant and refuses to obey him, and refuses to allow him to enjoy her in the Shari'ah manner,For Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) says:
Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them
الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنْفَقُوا مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللَّهُ وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّAs for severe beating, or beating without a legitimate reason, this is not permissible; it is forbidden for a husband to do this to his wife.
As for what she did in tearing her clothes, this is a mistake on her part, because it is not permissible for a Muslim to tear his clothes when distressed, and this is from the actions of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance. It is obligatory for a Muslim to be patient, seek reward from Allah, and not tear his clothes when he is distressed or angry.
As for the claim that this causes one to leave the religion, as you asked, this is not correct; one does not leave the religion by doing this. However, this is a matter that is not permissible and is forbidden for him, but it does not cause him to leave the religion.
As for going to a shaykh to do such and such, this is a great mistake, and this is not from the religion of Islam. When a sinner commits a sin, he repents to Allah (Mighty and Majestic) without going to a shaykh. This is from the practice of the Christians who go to their monks and churches to have them absolve them of sin, as they claim.
As for the Muslim, Allah has commanded him to repent between himself and Him, with sincere repentance, and Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) accepts the repentance of whoever repents, and he does not need to go to a shaykh. And Allah knows best.