Exaggeration in Mahr
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The wife's mother is among the mahram
Question: Is it permissible to shake hands with the wife's mother and travel with her? Please inform us, may Allah reward you.
Answer: Yes, there is nothing wrong with that, because she is among his mahram. Allah, Exalted and Majestic, has forbidden the wife's mother to her daughter's husband, a permanent prohibition. So she is among your mahram. There is nothing wrong with shaking hands with her, traveling with her, and being her mahram, except if you fear fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), in which case you do not shake hands with her.
As for if there is no concern, there is nothing wrong with shaking hands with her, traveling with her, and being her mahram; because she has become among your mahram by virtue of the contract on her daughter. And Allah the Exalted knows best.
[Exaggeration in Mahr]
Question: Perhaps you could offer some advice to some of the guardians who may exaggerate in the mahr, which causes problems in the path of marriage?
Answer: The issue of mahr: there is no doubt that it should be made easy and lightened, because the purpose of marriage is not the mahr, but rather the benefits of marriage and the good that follows for the society and for the spouses. So, exaggeration in mahr, an exaggeration that prevents or hinders marriage, is something that a Muslim should not do.
Rather, what is required by the Shari'ah is to facilitate the matter of marriage, ease the mahr, and employ all means that encourage marriage for the sake of its benefits. It is not permissible to take as a model people who are not fit to be models, such as the ignorant and the greedy, who raise the amounts of mahr to satisfy their desires, or for boasting, or for other bad purposes.
And there is no doubt that raising the mahr and increasing it for the married couples is something that hinders marriage and causes corruption. Muslims should be aware of this and not follow behind corrupt traditions, boasting, extravagance, and waste. Add to that the fact that marriage is also surrounded by other costs, such as feasts, splurging, and buying many fabrics and jewelry, the only intention behind which is boasting and burdening the husband. All of this is exaggeration, and among the burdens and shackles that the devils of mankind and jinn throw in the path of marriage, in order to thereby disable this beneficial path for the society.
Question: Is it permissible to shake hands with the wife's mother and travel with her? Please inform us, may Allah reward you.
Answer: Yes, there is nothing wrong with that, because she is among his mahram. Allah, Exalted and Majestic, has forbidden the wife's mother to her daughter's husband, a permanent prohibition. So she is among your mahram. There is nothing wrong with shaking hands with her, traveling with her, and being her mahram, except if you fear fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), in which case you do not shake hands with her.
As for if there is no concern, there is nothing wrong with shaking hands with her, traveling with her, and being her mahram; because she has become among your mahram by virtue of the contract on her daughter. And Allah the Exalted knows best.
[Exaggeration in Mahr]
Question: Perhaps you could offer some advice to some of the guardians who may exaggerate in the mahr, which causes problems in the path of marriage?
Answer: The issue of mahr: there is no doubt that it should be made easy and lightened, because the purpose of marriage is not the mahr, but rather the benefits of marriage and the good that follows for the society and for the spouses. So, exaggeration in mahr, an exaggeration that prevents or hinders marriage, is something that a Muslim should not do.
Rather, what is required by the Shari'ah is to facilitate the matter of marriage, ease the mahr, and employ all means that encourage marriage for the sake of its benefits. It is not permissible to take as a model people who are not fit to be models, such as the ignorant and the greedy, who raise the amounts of mahr to satisfy their desires, or for boasting, or for other bad purposes.
And there is no doubt that raising the mahr and increasing it for the married couples is something that hinders marriage and causes corruption. Muslims should be aware of this and not follow behind corrupt traditions, boasting, extravagance, and waste. Add to that the fact that marriage is also surrounded by other costs, such as feasts, splurging, and buying many fabrics and jewelry, the only intention behind which is boasting and burdening the husband. All of this is exaggeration, and among the burdens and shackles that the devils of mankind and jinn throw in the path of marriage, in order to thereby disable this beneficial path for the society.