He also asks: What is the ruling on seeking marriage by hand?
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The questioner : He also asks: What is the ruling on seeking marriage by hand?
The Shaykh : This is not permissible. A person should not attempt to release his semen by hand, for that is an act of transgression, as Allah the Exalted said:[Al-Mu'minun 23:5-7] meaning that whoever seeks what is beyond the bounds of lawful spouses and what the right hand possesses has transgressed the limit. Furthermore, it causes physical harm, as is well known to doctors, because it destroys this natural instinct to a severe degree. They have even said that a single instance of it is equivalent to twelve instances of natural intercourse in terms of its destruction of the body.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Therefore, it is obligatory for the believer to be patient, seek reward from Allah, and restrain his desire by what the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded, where he said:Mishkat al-Masabih 3080 If a person has a strong desire and fears for himself falling into unlawful sexual intercourse if he does not alleviate it by releasing this fluid, he should fast, as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded.
The questioner : (peace and blessings be upon him).
The Shaykh : If he is unable to marry.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : And if he is unable to fast, he should be patient and seek reward from Allah. Whenever his desire stirs up, he should try to occupy himself with another matter that distracts him from it, until Allah makes it easy for him. For Allah the Exalted has promised the chaste with wealth.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh :[An-Nur 24:33] Yes.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : This is not permissible. A person should not attempt to release his semen by hand, for that is an act of transgression, as Allah the Exalted said:
(5) And they who guard their private parts (6) Except from their wives or those their right hands possess, for indeed, they will not be blamed - (7) But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors -
وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَافِظُونَ * إِلَّا عَلَى أَزْوَاجِهِمْ أوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُومِينَ * فَمَنِ ابْتَغَى وَرَاءَ ذَلِكَ فَأُوْلَئِكَ هُمُ الْعَادُونَThe questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Therefore, it is obligatory for the believer to be patient, seek reward from Allah, and restrain his desire by what the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded, where he said:
Young man, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at strange women and preserves you from immorality; but those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting, for it is a means of suppressing sexual desire.
يا معشر الشباب من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج فإنه أغض للبصر وأحصن للفرج ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم فإنه له وجاءThe questioner : (peace and blessings be upon him).
The Shaykh : If he is unable to marry.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : And if he is unable to fast, he should be patient and seek reward from Allah. Whenever his desire stirs up, he should try to occupy himself with another matter that distracts him from it, until Allah makes it easy for him. For Allah the Exalted has promised the chaste with wealth.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh :
But let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until Allah enriches them from His bounty.
وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذِينَ لا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّى يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِThe questioner : Yes.