I had intercourse with my wife during the day in Ramadan, and you said that I owe an expiation. Is it permissible for me to give charity, such as buying dates and giving them to sixty poor people?
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The questioner : The questioner says, "I am the one who asked yesterday about my intercourse with my wife, and you said that I owe an expiation. Is it permissible for me to give dates as charity, meaning I buy dates and give them to sixty poor people?"
The Shaykh : The questioner is now in front of me, and he is a young man who is able to fast two consecutive months. We ask Allah the Exalted to help him with that. When a man resolves to do something, it becomes easy for him; but if he indulges in laziness and procrastination, it becomes difficult for him. Praise be to Allah, who has placed in this world deeds that we perform which remove the punishment of the Hereafter from us. So we say to the brother: Fast two consecutive months and seek help from Allah. If the weather is currently hot and the days are long, you have the opportunity to postpone it until the days of winter, when the days are short and the weather is cold. The wife is like the man: if she was willing, her fast is complete and she owes no expiation. But if she was forced and could not avoid it, her fast is complete and she owes no expiation.
The Shaykh : The questioner is now in front of me, and he is a young man who is able to fast two consecutive months. We ask Allah the Exalted to help him with that. When a man resolves to do something, it becomes easy for him; but if he indulges in laziness and procrastination, it becomes difficult for him. Praise be to Allah, who has placed in this world deeds that we perform which remove the punishment of the Hereafter from us. So we say to the brother: Fast two consecutive months and seek help from Allah. If the weather is currently hot and the days are long, you have the opportunity to postpone it until the days of winter, when the days are short and the weather is cold. The wife is like the man: if she was willing, her fast is complete and she owes no expiation. But if she was forced and could not avoid it, her fast is complete and she owes no expiation.