Reconciling the hadith (prohibiting bathing with the leftover water of a woman and vice versa) with the hadith (the Prophet bathing with his wife Maymunah)
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[Reconciling the hadith (prohibiting bathing with the leftover water of a woman and vice versa) with the hadith (the Prophet bathing with his wife Maymunah)]
It is reported in a hadith that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) (prohibited a woman from bathing with the leftover water of a man, and a man from bathing with the leftover water of a woman, and ordered them to draw water together), and it is reported in another hadith that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) (bathed with the leftover water of Maymunah). How do we reconcile these two hadiths? May Allah reward you.
The reconciliation between them is that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) clarified the reason,He said: (A man should not bathe with the leftover water of a woman, nor a woman with the leftover water of a man, but they should draw water together). It is known that if they draw water together, they will bathe together. For this reason, the actual practice of the Messenger was like his verbal guidance: that a man and his wife bathe from the same vessel; because this is more conducive to affection and love, and there is no private part that must be guarded between a man and his wife;For this Messenger, he said: He does not do such and such, and he does such and such. If it were stated absolutely, there would be some contradiction between the two hadiths;But since he did not say: (But they should draw water together). It is as if he prohibited us from separating, so that each of us bathes alone, and commanded us to gather at the water.
Aisha says: (She used to bathe with the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) in the same vessel, and our hands would move in it). This is what is prescribed. This does not mean that if the woman bathes first without an agreement between them on who goes first and who goes last, that the man is prohibited from bathing after her. No, there is no prohibition in that. The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) bathed with the leftover water of Maymunah, and he even bathed with the leftover water of one of his wives when she was in a state of major ritual impurity,He said: (Water does not become in a state of major ritual impurity). This is the wisdom. Perhaps some people are reluctant to be in the bathroom with their wife and bathe together! So we say: There is no reluctance in that. If the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), who was the most modest of people, did that with the Mother of the Believers Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), what is the barrier?So the prohibition intended is: The guidance is to another state, which is: that they draw water together.
The questioner: And the sleep of one in a state of major ritual impurity without ablution! The Shaykh: The sleep of one in a state of major ritual impurity without ablution. Some scholars consider it forbidden;Because the Messenger said: (If he performs ablution, let him sleep). The well-known view in our school of jurisprudence is that it is disliked, and this is the closest view. But sometimes it happens—for example, in the days of winter when the cold is severe, and it is difficult for him to bathe and then return to sleep, or to perform ablution and then return to sleep. What I see is that, if Allah wills, there is no harm in it.
The questioner: But ablution does not burden him with anything.
The Shaykh: You do not know. Perhaps it burdens him, and perhaps when a person is in the cold and has only cold water, it may burden him.
May Allah bless you.
Until a future meeting, if Allah wills.
And we ask Allah the Exalted to reward you for your attendance; because (Whoever takes a path in search of knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise).
May Allah make us and you among the people of His grace and bounty.
It is reported in a hadith that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) (prohibited a woman from bathing with the leftover water of a man, and a man from bathing with the leftover water of a woman, and ordered them to draw water together), and it is reported in another hadith that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) (bathed with the leftover water of Maymunah). How do we reconcile these two hadiths? May Allah reward you.
The reconciliation between them is that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) clarified the reason,He said: (A man should not bathe with the leftover water of a woman, nor a woman with the leftover water of a man, but they should draw water together). It is known that if they draw water together, they will bathe together. For this reason, the actual practice of the Messenger was like his verbal guidance: that a man and his wife bathe from the same vessel; because this is more conducive to affection and love, and there is no private part that must be guarded between a man and his wife;For this Messenger, he said: He does not do such and such, and he does such and such. If it were stated absolutely, there would be some contradiction between the two hadiths;But since he did not say: (But they should draw water together). It is as if he prohibited us from separating, so that each of us bathes alone, and commanded us to gather at the water.
Aisha says: (She used to bathe with the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) in the same vessel, and our hands would move in it). This is what is prescribed. This does not mean that if the woman bathes first without an agreement between them on who goes first and who goes last, that the man is prohibited from bathing after her. No, there is no prohibition in that. The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) bathed with the leftover water of Maymunah, and he even bathed with the leftover water of one of his wives when she was in a state of major ritual impurity,He said: (Water does not become in a state of major ritual impurity). This is the wisdom. Perhaps some people are reluctant to be in the bathroom with their wife and bathe together! So we say: There is no reluctance in that. If the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), who was the most modest of people, did that with the Mother of the Believers Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), what is the barrier?So the prohibition intended is: The guidance is to another state, which is: that they draw water together.
The questioner: And the sleep of one in a state of major ritual impurity without ablution! The Shaykh: The sleep of one in a state of major ritual impurity without ablution. Some scholars consider it forbidden;Because the Messenger said: (If he performs ablution, let him sleep). The well-known view in our school of jurisprudence is that it is disliked, and this is the closest view. But sometimes it happens—for example, in the days of winter when the cold is severe, and it is difficult for him to bathe and then return to sleep, or to perform ablution and then return to sleep. What I see is that, if Allah wills, there is no harm in it.
The questioner: But ablution does not burden him with anything.
The Shaykh: You do not know. Perhaps it burdens him, and perhaps when a person is in the cold and has only cold water, it may burden him.
May Allah bless you.
Until a future meeting, if Allah wills.
And we ask Allah the Exalted to reward you for your attendance; because (Whoever takes a path in search of knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise).
May Allah make us and you among the people of His grace and bounty.