How to reconcile the hadith (A woman should not bathe with the leftover water of a man, and a man should not bathe with the leftover water of a woman; rather, they should both draw water together) with the hadith (That the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)
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The Shaykh : Yes, come on, my brothers, come on.
The questioner : O Shaykh, may Allah reward you with good. In the hadith...
The Shaykh : What?
The questioner : In the hadith, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)Bulugh al-Maram 7.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : The second hadith isBulugh al-Maram 8.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : How do we reconcile the two hadiths?
The Shaykh : The first is a prohibitive instruction, meaning it is recommended that a man not bathe alone while his wife is bathing, and it is better that they both bathe together in one vessel and in one place. This is the meaning of the hadith. It is not a prohibition of sin, nor even a prohibition of dislike, but it is a prohibitive instruction. Instead of you bathing in one vessel and your wife in another, you should join together. This is the way of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), to the point that she would say, "Leave some for me, leave some for me." This also leads to strengthening the love and bond between the spouses. Do you understand? As for the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) bathing with the leftover water of Maymunah, it is because she had bathed before him, and the time of her bathing did not coincide with the time of his bathing, so he bathed after her. Do you understand now?
And based on this, the weakness of the position taken by the jurists becomes clear, namely that a man does not bathe with the water in which a woman has bathed for an obligatory purification. Rather, we say he may bathe and there is no blame on him. Yes.
The questioner : O Shaykh, may Allah reward you with good. In the hadith...
The Shaykh : What?
The questioner : In the hadith, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)
forbade a women to bathe with the water left over by a man and that a man should not bathe with the water left over by a woman (but instead) they should both take scoopfuls of the water together
نهى أن تغتسل المرأة بفضل الرّجل، والرّجل بفضل المرأة وليغترفا جميعاThe Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : The second hadith is
The Prophet (ﷺ) used to bath with the water left over by Maimuna (rad)
أنّ النّبيّ صلّى الله عليه وسلّم كان يغتسل بفضل ميمونةThe Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : How do we reconcile the two hadiths?
The Shaykh : The first is a prohibitive instruction, meaning it is recommended that a man not bathe alone while his wife is bathing, and it is better that they both bathe together in one vessel and in one place. This is the meaning of the hadith. It is not a prohibition of sin, nor even a prohibition of dislike, but it is a prohibitive instruction. Instead of you bathing in one vessel and your wife in another, you should join together. This is the way of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)
He and Aisha used to bathe from one vessel, their hands differing in it.
كان يغتسل هو وعائشة من إناء واحد تختلف أيديهما فيهAnd based on this, the weakness of the position taken by the jurists becomes clear, namely that a man does not bathe with the water in which a woman has bathed for an obligatory purification. Rather, we say he may bathe and there is no blame on him. Yes.