The ruling on addressing one's father by his kunya
Machine translationRead the Arabic original
Is it permissible to address your father by his kunya, saying "O Abu So-and-so," meaning: by his eldest son, who is his eldest brother, and likewise during conversation, given that the father does not dislike this and may even prefer it, and it is a common custom?
There is nothing wrong with it.Meaning: There is nothing wrong with a son addressing his father by his name or his kunya, as long as he does not think his father dislikes this. If he dislikes it, then no; or if it goes against the custom of the people and he addresses him in front of them, because the father may not dislike this, but the custom of the people is that they do not address people by their name or kunya. In that case, we say: Do not address him by his name or kunya in front of people; because this is a defect in the eyes of people. I think that if you addressed your father, for example, in the market among people, and his name is 'Abd Allah, and you said: "O 'Abd Allah" or "O Abu So-and-so," it is apparent that people would consider this a defect. So if it is in front of people, do not address him by his name or his kunya, even if he does not dislike it, because it is a defect in the eyes of people. And they consider this an insult to his father. I have even heard a man say: By Allah! If my son addressed me by my name, I would give him a slap, which is a strike with the palm.
There is nothing wrong with it.Meaning: There is nothing wrong with a son addressing his father by his name or his kunya, as long as he does not think his father dislikes this. If he dislikes it, then no; or if it goes against the custom of the people and he addresses him in front of them, because the father may not dislike this, but the custom of the people is that they do not address people by their name or kunya. In that case, we say: Do not address him by his name or kunya in front of people; because this is a defect in the eyes of people. I think that if you addressed your father, for example, in the market among people, and his name is 'Abd Allah, and you said: "O 'Abd Allah" or "O Abu So-and-so," it is apparent that people would consider this a defect. So if it is in front of people, do not address him by his name or his kunya, even if he does not dislike it, because it is a defect in the eyes of people. And they consider this an insult to his father. I have even heard a man say: By Allah! If my son addressed me by my name, I would give him a slap, which is a strike with the palm.