Is calling one's mother by her kunya or her name, and refraining from calling her "my mother," considered undutifulness?
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The questioner : Shaykh, may Allah bless you, does it count as undutifulness now for a person who calls his mother by her kunya and her name, and refrains from calling her by the phrase dearest to her, which is "my mother"?
The Shaykh : It seems you are referring to this hadith.
The questioner : I mean, as for Anas, he said, "My mother, Umm Sulaym." We say that the one who calls his mother "the mother of so-and-so" does not call her by her name at all.
The Shaykh : In any case, it is customary etiquette among us that a person does not call his father or mother by their name, but rather says "O my father" and "O my mother." This was the way of the messengers in the past, for Ibrahim said to his father, "O my father," which is better in terms of etiquette. However, in the context of reporting news, there is no harm in saying "So-and-so, the son of so-and-so," just as Ibn Umar used to narrate frequently from his father, saying "Umar said." The context of reporting news is broader than the context of addressing or calling out. Is it in the context of addressing or reporting? It is in the context of addressing. In any case, it is undoubtedly part of etiquette to call your father by the description of fatherhood and your mother by the description of motherhood. However, sometimes circumstances may arise that require you to clarify and call her by her name. As for reporting news, there is no harm. Yes.
The Shaykh : It seems you are referring to this hadith.
The questioner : I mean, as for Anas, he said, "My mother, Umm Sulaym." We say that the one who calls his mother "the mother of so-and-so" does not call her by her name at all.
The Shaykh : In any case, it is customary etiquette among us that a person does not call his father or mother by their name, but rather says "O my father" and "O my mother." This was the way of the messengers in the past, for Ibrahim said to his father, "O my father," which is better in terms of etiquette. However, in the context of reporting news, there is no harm in saying "So-and-so, the son of so-and-so," just as Ibn Umar used to narrate frequently from his father, saying "Umar said." The context of reporting news is broader than the context of addressing or calling out. Is it in the context of addressing or reporting? It is in the context of addressing. In any case, it is undoubtedly part of etiquette to call your father by the description of fatherhood and your mother by the description of motherhood. However, sometimes circumstances may arise that require you to clarify and call her by her name. As for reporting news, there is no harm. Yes.