Is calling one's mother by her name considered undutifulness to her, and if one is accustomed to calling her by her name with her consent, is this permissible?
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The questioner : Is calling one's mother by her name considered undutifulness to her, and if one is accustomed to calling her by her name and she is pleased with it, is this permissible, O honorable Shaykh?
The Shaykh : It is permissible for a person to call his parents or one of them by their name, but it is not proper conduct to do so. Rather, he should say: "O my mother," "O my mother," "O my father." If he adds the name to this, there is nothing wrong with it, such as saying: "O my father so-and-so," or "O my mother so-and-so." However, mentioning their names without mentioning the description of fatherhood or motherhood is considered contrary to proper conduct.
The questioner : Well, what if he says "O mother of so-and-so"?
The Shaykh : If he says "O mother of so-and-so" using the kunya, people do not consider this a violation of proper conduct.
There is a note regarding what was mentioned previously, and this applies if you are calling out to them. However, if you are reporting about your father and mother, there is no harm in saying: "So-and-so said such and such," as occurred with some of the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them). For example, if his father's name is Abdullah, he says: "Abdullah ibn so-and-so said such and such," or "So-and-so said such and such." But calling out is one thing, and reporting is another. People consider calling someone by his proper name without pairing it with the description of fatherhood or motherhood to be bad conduct, whereas reporting is not considered bad conduct, and there is nothing wrong with it.
The questioner : May Allah bless you.
The Shaykh : It is permissible for a person to call his parents or one of them by their name, but it is not proper conduct to do so. Rather, he should say: "O my mother," "O my mother," "O my father." If he adds the name to this, there is nothing wrong with it, such as saying: "O my father so-and-so," or "O my mother so-and-so." However, mentioning their names without mentioning the description of fatherhood or motherhood is considered contrary to proper conduct.
The questioner : Well, what if he says "O mother of so-and-so"?
The Shaykh : If he says "O mother of so-and-so" using the kunya, people do not consider this a violation of proper conduct.
There is a note regarding what was mentioned previously, and this applies if you are calling out to them. However, if you are reporting about your father and mother, there is no harm in saying: "So-and-so said such and such," as occurred with some of the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them). For example, if his father's name is Abdullah, he says: "Abdullah ibn so-and-so said such and such," or "So-and-so said such and such." But calling out is one thing, and reporting is another. People consider calling someone by his proper name without pairing it with the description of fatherhood or motherhood to be bad conduct, whereas reporting is not considered bad conduct, and there is nothing wrong with it.
The questioner : May Allah bless you.