If a woman chooses a man who is not righteous, and the man her father chose is righteous, is her opinion to be followed, or is she to be forced to marry the one her father wants?
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The questioner : It is known, O honorable Shaykh, that women are weak in intellect. So if a woman chooses a man who is not righteous, and the man her father chose is righteous, is her opinion to be followed, or is she to be forced to marry the one her father wants?
The Shaykh : As for forcing her to marry the one her father wants, that is not permissible, even if he is righteous. And as for marrying her to someone whose religion and character are not acceptable, that is also not permissible. Her guardian has the right to prevent her and say: I will not marry you to this man you want, if he is not equal to her in religion and character.
If someone were to say: What if the daughter insists on not marrying anyone but this man? We say: We leave her alone; we do not marry her, and we bear no sin for her. Yes, if a person fears harm, and that harm is that a fitnah (trial) arises between her and this suitor that contradicts modesty, and there is nothing in the man that disqualifies him in religion, the most that can be said is, for example, that he has a bad character and she can endure his bad character, then perhaps we would say in this case: marry her. Yes.
The Shaykh : As for forcing her to marry the one her father wants, that is not permissible, even if he is righteous. And as for marrying her to someone whose religion and character are not acceptable, that is also not permissible. Her guardian has the right to prevent her and say: I will not marry you to this man you want, if he is not equal to her in religion and character.
If someone were to say: What if the daughter insists on not marrying anyone but this man? We say: We leave her alone; we do not marry her, and we bear no sin for her. Yes, if a person fears harm, and that harm is that a fitnah (trial) arises between her and this suitor that contradicts modesty, and there is nothing in the man that disqualifies him in religion, the most that can be said is, for example, that he has a bad character and she can endure his bad character, then perhaps we would say in this case: marry her. Yes.
