The Qualities of the Righteous Husband
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Question:
You also ask and say: How does the Muslim woman who wears the hijab and believes in Allah choose a life partner? What are his qualities? Please explain them to us, may you be rewarded. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
She should seek out a good man, known for his goodness, who is careful to maintain the prayers and has sound belief. She should ask about him from trustworthy people she knows who are familiar with him when he proposes to her. If she proposes to him herself, there is no harm in that, provided she knows him to be good and upright, and she advises her guardian, or someone other than her guardian, that she agrees to his proposal for her. There is no harm in this, for a woman once offered herself to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), and he approved of her doing so. When her husband did not desire her, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and 'Umar offered his daughter Hafsah to Abu Bakr and to 'Uthman after she was widowed, and then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) married her.
The point is: there is no objection to a woman choosing for herself a good man known for his uprightness in his religion, but she must not finalize the decision except through the way of her guardian. Her guardian is the one who marries her off. If she and her guardian agree on a good man, that is what is required. Her guardian has no right to force her to marry a man who is not good, or a man she does not approve of. Nor does she have the right to choose a man who would harm her guardians or cause problems between her and her guardians. She must follow the good paths and choose a good man whose choice will not cause problems or harm to her guardians. Yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good.
You also ask and say: How does the Muslim woman who wears the hijab and believes in Allah choose a life partner? What are his qualities? Please explain them to us, may you be rewarded. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
She should seek out a good man, known for his goodness, who is careful to maintain the prayers and has sound belief. She should ask about him from trustworthy people she knows who are familiar with him when he proposes to her. If she proposes to him herself, there is no harm in that, provided she knows him to be good and upright, and she advises her guardian, or someone other than her guardian, that she agrees to his proposal for her. There is no harm in this, for a woman once offered herself to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), and he approved of her doing so. When her husband did not desire her, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and 'Umar offered his daughter Hafsah to Abu Bakr and to 'Uthman after she was widowed, and then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) married her.
The point is: there is no objection to a woman choosing for herself a good man known for his uprightness in his religion, but she must not finalize the decision except through the way of her guardian. Her guardian is the one who marries her off. If she and her guardian agree on a good man, that is what is required. Her guardian has no right to force her to marry a man who is not good, or a man she does not approve of. Nor does she have the right to choose a man who would harm her guardians or cause problems between her and her guardians. She must follow the good paths and choose a good man whose choice will not cause problems or harm to her guardians. Yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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