One day I went to my uncle's house, and a disagreement occurred between us. Then I swore that I would not enter his house again. A few days later, circumstances willed it, and I entered.
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The questioner : One day I went to my uncle's house, and a disagreement occurred between us. Then I swore that I would not enter his house again. A few days later, circumstances willed it, and I entered the house. What is obligatory for me in such a situation? Please inform us. May Allah reward you with good?
The Shaykh : The answer: Before I mention the answer to his question, I would like to alert him and others to the fact that his phrase "circumstances willed it" is a reprehensible expression. Circumstances are times, and times do not will; they have no share in the matter. Rather, times are created moments, managed by the command of Allah, subjugated by His permission, Blessed and Exalted is He. Willing belongs only to Allah the Exalted, and then to the human being who acts by his choice. It is obligatory for the believer to avoid such words and not to speak a word unless he knows its meaning, whether it is good or evil, and whether it is truth or falsehood, so that he may be balanced in his verbal and physical conduct.
The important point is that expressing oneself with phrases like "circumstances willed it" or "fate willed it" or the like is not permissible. So a person must refrain from it.
As for the answer to his question, which he wanted answered, we say to him: Not entering his uncle's house is severing family ties, and severing family ties is among the major sins. The good thing is that he enters his uncle's house and expiates for his oath, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to 'Abd al-Rahman ibn Samurah:Sunan an-Nasa'i 3784Sahih (Darussalam) Therefore, let the questioner enter his uncle's house and expiate for his oath by feeding ten poor people, or clothing them, or freeing a slave. If he does not find the means, he should fast three consecutive days. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah bless you.
Also, this is a message from Yemen, the Yemen Arab Republic, in which the questioner says.
The Shaykh : The answer: Before I mention the answer to his question, I would like to alert him and others to the fact that his phrase "circumstances willed it" is a reprehensible expression. Circumstances are times, and times do not will; they have no share in the matter. Rather, times are created moments, managed by the command of Allah, subjugated by His permission, Blessed and Exalted is He. Willing belongs only to Allah the Exalted, and then to the human being who acts by his choice. It is obligatory for the believer to avoid such words and not to speak a word unless he knows its meaning, whether it is good or evil, and whether it is truth or falsehood, so that he may be balanced in his verbal and physical conduct.
The important point is that expressing oneself with phrases like "circumstances willed it" or "fate willed it" or the like is not permissible. So a person must refrain from it.
As for the answer to his question, which he wanted answered, we say to him: Not entering his uncle's house is severing family ties, and severing family ties is among the major sins. The good thing is that he enters his uncle's house and expiates for his oath, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to 'Abd al-Rahman ibn Samurah:
If you swear an oath, then you see something better than it, then offer expiation for your oath, and do that which is better.
إذا حلفت على يمين فرأيت غيرها خيراً منها فكفّر عن يمينك وائت الذي هو خيرThe questioner : May Allah bless you.
Also, this is a message from Yemen, the Yemen Arab Republic, in which the questioner says.