Is their disobedience in this case considered undutifulness to parents?
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The questioner : There is a question here, may Allah be pleased with you, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh: Go ahead.
The questioner : One of the brothers presented to me a question that I direct to you. A young man is married and has a wife, and he has had three daughters and a son from her. But the doctors told him that his son was afflicted with a disease after birth. They told him that it was because of his closeness to the wife, meaning his kinship with her, that is, the kinship with the wife leads to disease due to the closeness. His son passed away after five months. So now, due to the doctors' reports, he is afraid of leaving the field open for his wife, with the permission of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He), to give birth again, for fear that the child will be deformed, because the children come out deformed. So he does not want to let his wife give birth now. But now he is in a dilemma. His mother and father are telling him that he must marry, and he says, "I love my wife and I do not want to marry another woman over her." So now he asked me, saying: In the case of disobeying my father and mother by not marrying another woman over my wife, am I being undutiful to my father or my mother in this regard? What is your opinion on the matter?
The Shaykh : What is the reason, as they mentioned, for the doctors' warning against his approaching his wife?
The student : As they mentioned, he says that the blood, meaning in the medical reports, it says that the husband's blood and the wife's blood have negative factors that lead to...
Another student: Our Shaykh, sometimes the blood components between the spouses are negative-negative or positive-positive.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The student : Because the blood from which the child is produced must be negative and positive. If the blood is unified in its negativity or positivity, if a pregnancy occurs, Glorified is Allah, it is rare for a pregnancy to occur in this case. But if a pregnancy does occur, the child will certainly come out deformed. Experience and science say so. Therefore, the doctors in such a case advise the husband not to let his wife continue with pregnancy.
The Shaykh : These two spouses have three natural children.
The questioner : Yes, regarding the daughters, the doctors say that nothing happens to them, only the sons.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : Regarding the daughters.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : This does not happen to them, only the sons, according to the doctors' report.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Usually, the daughters, meaning this that happened to the sons does not occur.
The student : Glorified is Allah. A doctor, a neighbor of ours, was telling me now. He passed away, may Allah have mercy on him. He had a wife who gave birth to daughters. The son who would come would die, and the daughters lived, two and three of them.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The student : Glorified is the Great Allah.
Another student: Yes, as I mentioned.
The Shaykh : All right, it seems to me that there is something before answering the question. Since the matter is not certain except if the newborn is a male.
The student: Yes.
The Shaykh : All right, and it is not possible to rule that he will be male or female. Therefore, I do not see that this husband should be distant from his wife in his life, because suspicion is not certainty, even regarding the doctors' opinion, because they say if a male comes, it will be so, and if it is a female, she will be normal. This is the opinion from this side, which was not the subject of the question. As for the question, the parents are ordering him to marry another woman.
The student : Before answering the other side, it is the question of the brother Mahmoud, in which he mentioned that the doctors say that his wife must abstain from pregnancy.
The Shaykh : Why? Because they fear that the child will come as a male and be disabled.
The student : He should not be distant from her.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The student : He should not be distant from her, but there is a procedure called tubal ligation.
The Shaykh : This was not mentioned.
The student : No, this is what they do.
The Shaykh : This is not permissible, a fortiori.
The questioner : This is not permissible, a fortiori.
The Shaykh : This is not permissible, a fortiori.
The questioner : Or using contraceptive pills.
The Shaykh : I said earlier that he should approach her and have intercourse with her, because the medical suspicion here is not certainty. If, for example, any newborn, whether male or female, comes disabled, then there is another answer for that. But since they say if it is a male, it is disabled, and if it is a female, it is not disabled, then the ligation mentioned is not permissible. So we return to the original question. If the parents are ordering him to marry another woman, and the son is able to fulfill the rights of the other wife without harming the first, meaning he achieves the justice commanded in the Noble Qur'an, then at that time it is obligatory for him to obey them, and his disobedience to them is considered undutifulness to them. Yes, but note these conditions, clear.
The questioner : Yes, we note these conditions.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : And beware of that.
The Shaykh: Go ahead.
The questioner : One of the brothers presented to me a question that I direct to you. A young man is married and has a wife, and he has had three daughters and a son from her. But the doctors told him that his son was afflicted with a disease after birth. They told him that it was because of his closeness to the wife, meaning his kinship with her, that is, the kinship with the wife leads to disease due to the closeness. His son passed away after five months. So now, due to the doctors' reports, he is afraid of leaving the field open for his wife, with the permission of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He), to give birth again, for fear that the child will be deformed, because the children come out deformed. So he does not want to let his wife give birth now. But now he is in a dilemma. His mother and father are telling him that he must marry, and he says, "I love my wife and I do not want to marry another woman over her." So now he asked me, saying: In the case of disobeying my father and mother by not marrying another woman over my wife, am I being undutiful to my father or my mother in this regard? What is your opinion on the matter?
The Shaykh : What is the reason, as they mentioned, for the doctors' warning against his approaching his wife?
The student : As they mentioned, he says that the blood, meaning in the medical reports, it says that the husband's blood and the wife's blood have negative factors that lead to...
Another student: Our Shaykh, sometimes the blood components between the spouses are negative-negative or positive-positive.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The student : Because the blood from which the child is produced must be negative and positive. If the blood is unified in its negativity or positivity, if a pregnancy occurs, Glorified is Allah, it is rare for a pregnancy to occur in this case. But if a pregnancy does occur, the child will certainly come out deformed. Experience and science say so. Therefore, the doctors in such a case advise the husband not to let his wife continue with pregnancy.
The Shaykh : These two spouses have three natural children.
The questioner : Yes, regarding the daughters, the doctors say that nothing happens to them, only the sons.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : Regarding the daughters.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : This does not happen to them, only the sons, according to the doctors' report.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Usually, the daughters, meaning this that happened to the sons does not occur.
The student : Glorified is Allah. A doctor, a neighbor of ours, was telling me now. He passed away, may Allah have mercy on him. He had a wife who gave birth to daughters. The son who would come would die, and the daughters lived, two and three of them.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The student : Glorified is the Great Allah.
Another student: Yes, as I mentioned.
The Shaykh : All right, it seems to me that there is something before answering the question. Since the matter is not certain except if the newborn is a male.
The student: Yes.
The Shaykh : All right, and it is not possible to rule that he will be male or female. Therefore, I do not see that this husband should be distant from his wife in his life, because suspicion is not certainty, even regarding the doctors' opinion, because they say if a male comes, it will be so, and if it is a female, she will be normal. This is the opinion from this side, which was not the subject of the question. As for the question, the parents are ordering him to marry another woman.
The student : Before answering the other side, it is the question of the brother Mahmoud, in which he mentioned that the doctors say that his wife must abstain from pregnancy.
The Shaykh : Why? Because they fear that the child will come as a male and be disabled.
The student : He should not be distant from her.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The student : He should not be distant from her, but there is a procedure called tubal ligation.
The Shaykh : This was not mentioned.
The student : No, this is what they do.
The Shaykh : This is not permissible, a fortiori.
The questioner : This is not permissible, a fortiori.
The Shaykh : This is not permissible, a fortiori.
The questioner : Or using contraceptive pills.
The Shaykh : I said earlier that he should approach her and have intercourse with her, because the medical suspicion here is not certainty. If, for example, any newborn, whether male or female, comes disabled, then there is another answer for that. But since they say if it is a male, it is disabled, and if it is a female, it is not disabled, then the ligation mentioned is not permissible. So we return to the original question. If the parents are ordering him to marry another woman, and the son is able to fulfill the rights of the other wife without harming the first, meaning he achieves the justice commanded in the Noble Qur'an, then at that time it is obligatory for him to obey them, and his disobedience to them is considered undutifulness to them. Yes, but note these conditions, clear.
The questioner : Yes, we note these conditions.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : And beware of that.
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