The Meaning of the Saying of Allah the Exalted: "Do not drive them out of their homes, and let them not go out."
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The Shaykh : Then He said: [At-Talaq 65:1] There are two addresses, one directed to the men and the other to the women .
So if he divorces her, she must remain in her home; she does not go out, and the husband does not drive her out. If he drives her out, it is forbidden for him, and if she goes out, it is forbidden for her.
Is the reality among people today compliance with this command for both parties? On the contrary, now from the day he divorces her, she goes to her family and does not return, and this is forbidden for her, and forbidden for the husband as well. It is forbidden for the husband to say, "Go to your family," and it is forbidden for him to make things difficult for her until she goes out. Rather, he must be generous in allowing her to remain in his home, and she must be generous in allowing her to remain in her husband's home.
If someone asks: Her remaining in his home, because we say, does she veil herself from him or not? We say she does not veil herself; she remains with her face, head, calves, arms, upper arms, and neck uncovered. Good.
Does she adorn herself or wear the worst of clothes? She adorns herself. Good.
Does she use perfume? She uses perfume.
So no harm has befallen her, meaning she continues her normal life before her husband who divorced her, and if she wishes to increase her adornment, that is better, because he desires her and may take her back. For this reason, the ruling of this divorced woman is the ruling of wives in every aspect: she adorns herself, and he is alone with her, and he travels with her, except for sexual enjoyment; he does not enjoy her sexually, such as intercourse, kissing, or the like, except after taking her back. Everything else is permissible. Is there any blame on her if she remains in the house now, or is there no blame on her? There is no blame on her; there is absolutely no blame on her. But if she wants to go out, and the husband says, "I want you to remain," is she obligated to remain? Yes, she is obligated, because this is the right of the husband. She is also disobedient to Allah the Mighty and Majestic if she goes out and the husband has not driven her out and is asking her to remain.
This matter, O brothers, the general public does not do as I told you; from the moment the divorce occurs, she goes to her family, and it is obligatory that they address this problem because this is the command of Allah.
Do not turn them out of their [husbands'] houses, nor should they [themselves] leave
لا تخرجوهن من بيوتهن ولا يخرجنDo not drive them out
لا تخرجوهنand let them not go out
ولا يخرجنSo if he divorces her, she must remain in her home; she does not go out, and the husband does not drive her out. If he drives her out, it is forbidden for him, and if she goes out, it is forbidden for her.
Is the reality among people today compliance with this command for both parties? On the contrary, now from the day he divorces her, she goes to her family and does not return, and this is forbidden for her, and forbidden for the husband as well. It is forbidden for the husband to say, "Go to your family," and it is forbidden for him to make things difficult for her until she goes out. Rather, he must be generous in allowing her to remain in his home, and she must be generous in allowing her to remain in her husband's home.
If someone asks: Her remaining in his home, because we say, does she veil herself from him or not? We say she does not veil herself; she remains with her face, head, calves, arms, upper arms, and neck uncovered. Good.
Does she adorn herself or wear the worst of clothes? She adorns herself. Good.
Does she use perfume? She uses perfume.
So no harm has befallen her, meaning she continues her normal life before her husband who divorced her, and if she wishes to increase her adornment, that is better, because he desires her and may take her back. For this reason, the ruling of this divorced woman is the ruling of wives in every aspect: she adorns herself, and he is alone with her, and he travels with her, except for sexual enjoyment; he does not enjoy her sexually, such as intercourse, kissing, or the like, except after taking her back. Everything else is permissible. Is there any blame on her if she remains in the house now, or is there no blame on her? There is no blame on her; there is absolutely no blame on her. But if she wants to go out, and the husband says, "I want you to remain," is she obligated to remain? Yes, she is obligated, because this is the right of the husband. She is also disobedient to Allah the Mighty and Majestic if she goes out and the husband has not driven her out and is asking her to remain.
This matter, O brothers, the general public does not do as I told you; from the moment the divorce occurs, she goes to her family, and it is obligatory that they address this problem because this is the command of Allah.