Is there undutifulness to parents in one who goes out to travel to seek a livelihood without his parents' permission?
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The questioner : ... enabled me to reach him or be present, knowing that I had sent him the orphan's expenses and the like.
The Shaykh : If your Lord knows that you exerted yourself to be present before his death, but the circumstances there did not help you, then His anger does not affect you.
The questioner : But ... .
The Shaykh : But if you were negligent with him, whether in delaying your going to him, or if you traveled in the first place against his will,
The questioner : Of course, during the morning of the day I was traveling, he cried and held onto the travel ticket and passport, and he was preventing me from traveling.
The Shaykh : This is it
The questioner : And he said, "O my son, you are going to leave, and I will not see you again. I am sure that I will die and not see you." So when he was sick and they sent for me, I tried to take leave from my workplace, but they prevented me. They said to me, "There are no leaves; leaves are forbidden." So I sent him money, and twenty days after the money arrived, he passed away.
The Shaykh : So, the root of your departure was wrong; it is not your inability to return that is the error. The root of your departure was wrong. It is not permissible for a righteous son who is dutiful to his father to leave to seek knowledge, or to leave to fight in the path of Allah, except with the permission of his parents, as came in the authentic hadith that a man from Yemen came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said, “I have come to fight with you, and I have left my two parents weeping.” He said:Sunan an-Nasa'i 4163Hasan (Darussalam) So it is not permissible for a son to leave except with the consent of his parents, except in one case: if the departure is to perform an individual obligation (fard 'ayn) upon him. Here Mishkat al-Masabih 3696 I give you an example. It is obligatory for every adult Muslim to pray the Friday prayer in the mosque with the Muslim congregation; this is without dispute. And it is obligatory for him to pray the five daily prayers in the mosque according to the stronger opinion of the Muslim scholars, and the authentic hadiths indicate this, including the hadith Sahih Muslim 652 that I mentioned earlier. So if the father says to his son, “Do not pray in the mosque, pray at home,” he is not to be obeyed or listened to, even if he is angry, even if he is foolish, even if he kills himself, because Mishkat al-Masabih 3696 But if he says to him, “Go, pray the obligatory prayer and come back, but do not pray the recommended practice (sunnah),” then he must be obeyed, because leaving the recommended practice is not a sin. Yes, a great deal of good and a great reward are missed, but leaving the recommended practice is not a sin. So he is obeyed here and not obeyed there. You left in the path of seeking a livelihood.
The questioner : Ah
The Shaykh : and you went out without his permission. This is where your error came from. And I am remembering your question now; in fact, there is no way for you to make up for what you have missed in this matter except by increasing your supplication for him and doing righteous deeds, such as charity, fasting, Hajj, or 'Umrah, and intending that the reward be written for your father. This may alleviate the consequence of that sin that occurred in your initial going out. This is the answer to your question.
The questioner : Okay, our Shaykh.
The Shaykh : If your Lord knows that you exerted yourself to be present before his death, but the circumstances there did not help you, then His anger does not affect you.
The questioner : But ... .
The Shaykh : But if you were negligent with him, whether in delaying your going to him, or if you traveled in the first place against his will,
The questioner : Of course, during the morning of the day I was traveling, he cried and held onto the travel ticket and passport, and he was preventing me from traveling.
The Shaykh : This is it
The questioner : And he said, "O my son, you are going to leave, and I will not see you again. I am sure that I will die and not see you." So when he was sick and they sent for me, I tried to take leave from my workplace, but they prevented me. They said to me, "There are no leaves; leaves are forbidden." So I sent him money, and twenty days after the money arrived, he passed away.
The Shaykh : So, the root of your departure was wrong; it is not your inability to return that is the error. The root of your departure was wrong. It is not permissible for a righteous son who is dutiful to his father to leave to seek knowledge, or to leave to fight in the path of Allah, except with the permission of his parents, as came in the authentic hadith that a man from Yemen came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said, “I have come to fight with you, and I have left my two parents weeping.” He said:
Go back to them, and make them smile as you made them weep.
ارجع إليهما فأضحكهما كما أبكيتهماA creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the "Creator.”
لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالقI intend that I should command a person to lead people in prayer
لقد هممت أن آمر رجلا فيصلي بالناسA creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the "Creator.”
لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالقThe questioner : Ah
The Shaykh : and you went out without his permission. This is where your error came from. And I am remembering your question now; in fact, there is no way for you to make up for what you have missed in this matter except by increasing your supplication for him and doing righteous deeds, such as charity, fasting, Hajj, or 'Umrah, and intending that the reward be written for your father. This may alleviate the consequence of that sin that occurred in your initial going out. This is the answer to your question.
The questioner : Okay, our Shaykh.