Explanation of the Chapter on a Man Kissing a Young Girl, and beneath it is the hadith of Bakir, the father of Mukhrama, that he saw 'Abd Allah ibn Ja'far kissing Zaynab bint 'Umar ibn Abi Salmah.
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The Shaykh : He said "The Chapter on a Man Kissing a Young Girl". Here, naturally, the young girl is excluded from the category of the older girl, so it is not permissible for a non-mahram man to kiss an older girl. What is the dividing line between a young girl and an older girl? Without a doubt, this is known by observation. If a girl is young in age, for example, but is beautiful in appearance and full-bodied, such that some souls are inclined toward her, then it is not permissible for a stranger to approach her to kiss her. This is because kissing a young girl falls under the previously mentioned chapter in general Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1919Hasan (Darussalam) and under the chapter on kissing in the story of al-Husayn. We are now in another story about some of the Companions, where one of them kissed a young girl. This kissing is a kiss of mercy. If there is a fear that this kissing will turn into lust, then it is not permissible. Here, the author narrates under the chapter on a man kissing a young girl from Bakir, the father of Mukhrama, that he saw 'Abd Allah ibn Ja'far kissing Zaynab bint 'Umar ibn Abi Salmah, who was two years old or thereabouts. So, she is a young girl and is a stranger to 'Abd Allah ibn Ja'far because she is the daughter of 'Umar ibn Abi Salmah.
'Abd Allah ibn Ja'far is a young Companion. He is 'Abd Allah ibn Ja'far ibn Abi Talib, 'Abd Allah ibn Ja'far al-Tayyar, who was martyred in the Battle of Mu'tah. He died in a state of major ritual impurity, and the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) saw the angels carrying him and washing him, and he saw him in Paradise flying with two wings. Therefore, his father, Ja'far ibn Abi Talib, was called al-Tayyar (the Flyer). His son, this 'Abd Allah ibn Ja'far, is the one who was seen kissing that young girl, the two-year-old. 'Abd Allah ibn Ja'far was among the most noble and generous of the Arabs among the Companions. He is cited as an example of generosity and nobility, and he has many stories regarding that. So, this report from this Companion, the son of a Companion, regarding his kissing a young girl who was a stranger to him, also indicates that this kissing is a kiss of mercy. So, is this kissing a kiss of mercy and compassion? Is it permissible for a man to kiss a man? The answer is no, based on the previous hadith of Anas, in which it says "Do we kiss each other?" He said "Do we embrace each other?" He said . Likewise, it is not permissible for a man to kiss a man in any case, with no difference between travel and residence. If this is not permissible, then it is even more so not permissible for women to kiss each other. This is a trial that women have all been afflicted with, unless I am mistaken. Therefore, you must strive against yourselves and all abandon this custom. A woman should never kiss a woman, because a man does not kiss a man "Do we kiss each other?" He said . So, a woman does not kiss another woman, because the kiss that was mentioned is a kiss of mercy, a kiss of compassion for the young child. As for a kiss of greeting, no. In the previous hadith of Anas, it says "When one of us meets his brother, does he kiss him? " Does he embrace him? " " Does he hold him tightly? " " Does he bow to him? " No. Does he shake his hand? " He said .
So, handshaking is the proper conduct in greeting in Islam, along with, of course, the words "As-salamu alaykum." As for a man kissing a man, or a woman kissing a woman, this is not part of Islamic etiquette in any way. Women, especially those who claim they want to adhere to the Book and the Sunnah, must fight this custom in two ways. The first, which is more deserving and preferable, is for some of them to do so with others. The second is to spread and broadcast that whenever one sees another woman kissing a woman, she should say, "My sister, this is not found in the Book." Therefore, I remind you, and you must memorize this hadith of Anas: "Do we kiss each other?" He said.
He is not one of us who does not have mercy on our young
ليس منا من لم يرحم صغيرنا'Abd Allah ibn Ja'far is a young Companion. He is 'Abd Allah ibn Ja'far ibn Abi Talib, 'Abd Allah ibn Ja'far al-Tayyar, who was martyred in the Battle of Mu'tah. He died in a state of major ritual impurity, and the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) saw the angels carrying him and washing him, and he saw him in Paradise flying with two wings. Therefore, his father, Ja'far ibn Abi Talib, was called al-Tayyar (the Flyer). His son, this 'Abd Allah ibn Ja'far, is the one who was seen kissing that young girl, the two-year-old. 'Abd Allah ibn Ja'far was among the most noble and generous of the Arabs among the Companions. He is cited as an example of generosity and nobility, and he has many stories regarding that. So, this report from this Companion, the son of a Companion, regarding his kissing a young girl who was a stranger to him, also indicates that this kissing is a kiss of mercy. So, is this kissing a kiss of mercy and compassion? Is it permissible for a man to kiss a man? The answer is no, based on the previous hadith of Anas, in which it says "Do we kiss each other?" He said
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نعمSo, handshaking is the proper conduct in greeting in Islam, along with, of course, the words "As-salamu alaykum." As for a man kissing a man, or a woman kissing a woman, this is not part of Islamic etiquette in any way. Women, especially those who claim they want to adhere to the Book and the Sunnah, must fight this custom in two ways. The first, which is more deserving and preferable, is for some of them to do so with others. The second is to spread and broadcast that whenever one sees another woman kissing a woman, she should say, "My sister, this is not found in the Book." Therefore, I remind you, and you must memorize this hadith of Anas: "Do we kiss each other?" He said