Are children prevented from cutting their hair and nails before the last ten days of Dhul-Hijjah for the sake of their upbringing and accustoming them to acts of worship?

The questioner : May Allah reward you. Shaykh, regarding this topic, which is also about the home and teaching the children, and so on, I spoke with you about it last year and the year before. I mentioned to you that whoever has a sacrificial animal should not take anything from his hair or nails at the beginning of the ten days of Dhul-Hijjah. So I asked you: what about the rest of the household, the wife and the children, should they refrain with the man or not? You told me that there is no text covering the rest of the household, the wife and the children, except that from the perspective of teaching the children and the wife in this matter, they should do this in solidarity, so that the children grow up with this good habit and learn it, because the girl will become a mother in the future and the boy will become a father in the future. So, in solidarity, the children and the wife should learn that we teach them to refrain from cutting their hair and nails at the beginning of the ten days of Dhul-Hijjah, so that this Islamic atmosphere applies to the Islamic environment in the home. Today, I was surprised when Umm Abdullah said that the Shaykh says only the man. I told her the Shaykh also says this and that, because most of them were refraining with me in this matter, and all the children were accustomed to this until the beginning of the ten days of Dhul-Hijjah. They said, "We want to do nothing with our nails because of this and that." So Umm Abdullah told me today that the Shaykh says no. I told her, "Today we seek a ruling. What is your opinion on this topic?"

The Shaykh : The truth is that the issue has no text, as you quoted from me, and what has no text is not obligatory for people. So the principle is that it should be said that, of course, the one who wants to sacrifice, this is obligatory for him to do this thing. But on the other hand, it is not permissible for us to say that it is obligatory for the other members of the household to refrain from cutting hair and nails. It is absolutely not obligatory for them. However, what you quoted from me can be said from the perspective of considering an educational benefit, without it being obligatory for the head of the household or the wife of the household. The ruling is understood to be that it is not obligatory except for the one who sacrifices and for those who share with him in the financial burden and the price. As for the rest of the household, it is not obligatory for them because there is no text. But from the perspective of solidarity and sharing in the matter, I see no objection to this without compulsion. And I... I heard the last thing from Asim ibn Abi Malik a few hours ago, meaning he asked me questions about the sacrifice, including this one. In summary, it is not obligatory for the household to do this, but it is good for them to participate with the father in this. But the issue has precision from the jurisprudential perspective. Because now my wife understands, and you know how women understand, they snatch the conclusion from the top of the matter that the household is like the head of the household. But there is a great difference, as you quoted accurately, between what you quote and what is quoted in summary. Then when the summary is transferred from one person to another, and especially from one woman to another, this problem increases. So it is better to state clearly that it is not obligatory except for whoever wishes, for the sake of upbringing, the upbringing of the household only...The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.

The Shaykh : And to you.