Is consulting one's father regarding marriage obligatory?
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The questioner : I am calling you from al-Shunah al-Janubiyah.
The Shaykh : From al-Shunah al-Janubiyah.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Greetings to the brothers there.
The questioner : And the brother Jamal wants to speak with you.
The Shaykh : Please, go ahead.
The questioner : Peace be upon you, and Allah’s mercy and blessings.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings and His forgiveness.
The questioner : How are you, our noble Shaykh?
The Shaykh : I praise Allah to you.
The questioner : I am well, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : I hope that we are all well.
The questioner : How is your health?
The Shaykh : The health of an old man is what it is.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : The health of an old man.
The questioner : May Allah help you and strengthen you.
The Shaykh : May Allah reward you with good.
The questioner : ...May Allah bless you in the hadith.
The Shaykh : Go ahead.
The questioner : Is consulting the father or seeking the father's permission in the matter of marriage obligatory?
The Shaykh : Is the one seeking advice a bachelor?
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Has he not yet entered the world?
The questioner : Not yet.
The Shaykh : No, he does not need to seek advice, because this is an obligation. There is no need for consultation, because in my opinion, marriage is an obligation, not merely a recommended practice.
The questioner : Because if he fears hardship for himself.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, he fears it all the more, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to say, as in the two Sahihs:Mishkat al-Masabih 3080 So if the dutiful son is able to marry, he must obey his Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) before he obeys his father and his mother.
The questioner : Well, consulting the father may fall under the category of recommendation, meaning he consults him.
The Shaykh : There is no harm, in any case, consultation is good.
The Shaykh : From al-Shunah al-Janubiyah.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Greetings to the brothers there.
The questioner : And the brother Jamal wants to speak with you.
The Shaykh : Please, go ahead.
The questioner : Peace be upon you, and Allah’s mercy and blessings.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings and His forgiveness.
The questioner : How are you, our noble Shaykh?
The Shaykh : I praise Allah to you.
The questioner : I am well, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : I hope that we are all well.
The questioner : How is your health?
The Shaykh : The health of an old man is what it is.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : The health of an old man.
The questioner : May Allah help you and strengthen you.
The Shaykh : May Allah reward you with good.
The questioner : ...May Allah bless you in the hadith.
The Shaykh : Go ahead.
The questioner : Is consulting the father or seeking the father's permission in the matter of marriage obligatory?
The Shaykh : Is the one seeking advice a bachelor?
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Has he not yet entered the world?
The questioner : Not yet.
The Shaykh : No, he does not need to seek advice, because this is an obligation. There is no need for consultation, because in my opinion, marriage is an obligation, not merely a recommended practice.
The questioner : Because if he fears hardship for himself.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, he fears it all the more, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to say, as in the two Sahihs:
Young man, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at strange women and preserves you from immorality; but those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting, for it is a means of suppressing sexual desire.
يا معشر الشباب من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج, فإنه أغض للبصر وأحصن للفرج, ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم فإنه له وجاءThe questioner : Well, consulting the father may fall under the category of recommendation, meaning he consults him.
The Shaykh : There is no harm, in any case, consultation is good.
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