Is consulting one's father regarding marriage obligatory?
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The questioner : ... Is consulting the father or seeking his permission in the matter of marriage obligatory?
The Shaykh : Is the one seeking advice a bachelor?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Has he not yet entered the world?
The questioner: Not yet.
The Shaykh : No; there is no need for consultation because this is an obligation. There is no need for consultation because, in my opinion, marriage is an obligation, not merely a recommended practice.
The questioner : Because a person fears hardship for himself?
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, he fears it all the more; because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to say, as in the two authentic collections:Mishkat al-Masabih 3080, so if the dutiful son is able to marry, he must obey his Prophet (peace be upon him) before he obeys his father or his mother.
The questioner : Does consultation fall under the category of recommendation, meaning he should consult him?
The Shaykh : Is the one seeking advice a bachelor?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Has he not yet entered the world?
The questioner: Not yet.
The Shaykh : No; there is no need for consultation because this is an obligation. There is no need for consultation because, in my opinion, marriage is an obligation, not merely a recommended practice.
The questioner : Because a person fears hardship for himself?
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, he fears it all the more; because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to say, as in the two authentic collections:
Young man, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at strange women and preserves you from immorality; but those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting, for it is a means of suppressing sexual desire.
يا معشر الشباب من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج فإنه أغض للبصر وأحصن للفرج ومن لم يستطع فعليه صوم فإنه له وجاءThe questioner : Does consultation fall under the category of recommendation, meaning he should consult him?
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