Is it permissible for a woman to visit graves solely for the purpose of taking a lesson? And is there a limit to her visiting?

The questioner : Is it permissible for women to visit graves if it is solely for the purpose of taking a lesson?

The Shaykh : Yes, this is a condition, and the other condition, which is a general one, is that they be women who are covered and wearing the jilbab prescribed by the Shari'ah. They greet the people, remember the lesson of the deceased, and then return to their places. In this case, there is no difference between women and men, because the prohibition of visiting graves in the early days of Islam was a general prohibition that included both men and women. Then, when tawhid (the oneness of Allah) became firmly established among these Muslims, both men and women, permission was granted to them all, both men and women. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) combined a reference to these two matters in a single hadith, indicating that the prohibition was directed generally to women and men, and also indicating that the permission was directed to women and men. This is his statement (peace and blessings be upon him), as found in Sahih Muslim: To whom is this address directed? To Muslims in general, women and men. To whom is this address directed? To those who were previously prohibited, that is, women and men. This is confirmed by the reason the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) gave for permitting the visit after prohibiting it: Therefore, just as men need to engage in a lawful cause to remember the Hereafter, women are like men in this, if not more deserving of adopting such a cause that reminds them of the Hereafter.
As for the well-known hadith: This hadith is narrated in two wordings. The first wording is this: and it is weak. As for the other wording, it is: meaning those who visit frequently. This frequent visiting usually does not serve the purpose for which the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) permitted visiting for both genders, which is to remember the Hereafter. This frequent visiting is, as we observe in many occasions such as festivals and the middle of Sha'ban, where they sit around the grave and make that place a cafe, discussing various matters during their sitting. Therefore, the hadith is valid with the wording: and the meaning is that this does not contradict the general permission but rather specifies it, clarifying that the visit intended to remember the Hereafter is prescribed, but frequenting and exaggerating in this is prohibited. This is the answer to what you asked.

The questioner : Is there a limit to the frequent visiting, or does it not mean...

The Shaykh : No, there is no limit.