I am a committed young man, and my grandfather wants to marry me to my cousin, who is committed and studies Islamic law, but my parents have some reservations, so is it permissible for me to propose to her?

The questioner : I am a Muslim young man, praise be to Allah, seventeen years old, studying in high school, praise be to Allah. I pray and I read the Qur'an. My grandfather is the imam of a mosque, and I have a cousin who studies at the Islamic law school. My grandfather wants to marry me to my cousin, and I want her for the sake of her religion. However, my father and mother have some reservations. Should I propose to her, even though I know that I will not be able to find someone with her character and religion? And is a proposal valid for three years until I can pave my own way to earn sufficient money? I ask for your guidance, may Allah reward you.

The Shaykh : I see that you should proceed with the proposal to this woman, as long as she has pleased you in her religion and character, and that you should convince your parents of this. If they insist on disliking your proposal to her, then proceed with the proposal and do not heed their opposition, unless they mention a legal reason that necessitates abandoning the proposal, because such matters are personal issues that concern the individual himself.
However, the question mentioned that it is the grandfather who wants to marry him off. If his uncle is alive, the grandfather cannot marry him off while the lower-ranking father is present, unless the lower-ranking father appoints him as his agent. If the lower-ranking father is dead or not qualified to arrange the marriage, then the grandfather should marry her off.

The questioner : May Allah bless you.