regarding the ruling on a man who learns of a proposal: is he permitted to continue proposing?
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The student: If a suitor learns, after he has proposed, that the first suitor has already proposed, is he permitted to withdraw or remain?
The Shaykh : Yes, it appears that if he learns of it, it is obligatory for him to withdraw from the proposal, because the cause for the prohibition remains, which is proposing over the proposal of his brother. However, if someone says: perhaps the woman’s family will turn away from the first suitor if they know that this man has a desire for her?
We say: this man should fear Allah as much as he is able. When he learned of the proposal, he abandoned his own proposal. If these people wish to return to this last suitor and turn away from the first one after he has withdrawn from the proposal, then he owes nothing. Yes.
The Shaykh : Yes, it appears that if he learns of it, it is obligatory for him to withdraw from the proposal, because the cause for the prohibition remains, which is proposing over the proposal of his brother. However, if someone says: perhaps the woman’s family will turn away from the first suitor if they know that this man has a desire for her?
We say: this man should fear Allah as much as he is able. When he learned of the proposal, he abandoned his own proposal. If these people wish to return to this last suitor and turn away from the first one after he has withdrawn from the proposal, then he owes nothing. Yes.