The hand drum at weddings: is it for children, or are female singers brought in?
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The questioner : Your Eminence, the Shaykh
The Shaykh : He has nothing, and you have a question.
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : Yes, very well.
The questioner : Your Eminence, the Shaykh, is it the Sunnah at a wedding occasion to have children beat the hand drums, or to bring in female singers? And is the Sunnah lewd singing or recitation?
The Shaykh : The purpose of beating the hand drum and singing is twofold:
The first is to announce the marriage and make it public, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sunan Ibn Majah 1895Da'if (Darussalam) meaning with the hand drum.
The second is joy, because when the soul is happy, it likes to be delighted in some way. For this reason, a dispensation was granted to her from musical instruments, specifically the hand drum and singing—appropriate singing, not lewd singing, flirtation, or things that arouse desire. As for instruments of amusement other than the hand drum, such as the drum, the flute, the rebab, and the like, this is not permissible.
The questioner : Most songs are lewd, Shaykh, and... from musical tapes.
The Shaykh : No, it is not permissible to use them; it is not permissible to use them. But, praise be to Allah, there are many anthems that include welcoming and greeting those who come to the wedding venue, and they suffice in place of that.
The questioner : ...the least amount used, even if there is a Shaykh, female singers, or someone who recites anthems, this becomes very expensive.
The Shaykh : The issue of extravagance is a mistake.
The questioner : The least amount is three thousand riyals.
The Shaykh : No, we look for one for three hundred riyals!
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : May Allah make it easy, may Allah facilitate... "al-khamr" does not mean breaking the verses, correcting them, but as for extravagance, as I said, sometimes one is three thousand, and some are ten thousand, and some are more, and this is a waste of money.
The questioner : Is it permissible to attend... Shaykh.
The Shaykh : By Allah, I do not see attending.
The questioner : And what is obligatory upon the woman's guardian...?
The Shaykh : He must prevent this, and the man's family must also agree to prevent it, because the problem is sometimes the wife's family do not desire this thing, but the husband's family say, "We must do for our son what was done for so-and-so's son." This is a problem. Sometimes the husband's family do not desire it, and the wife's family say, "We must have our daughter... we must do for you what the family of so-and-so did." But the sensible person knows how to control the situation.
The questioner : Some of them... went, but...
The Shaykh : No, no, absolutely not, do not go.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : He has nothing, and you have a question.
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : Yes, very well.
The questioner : Your Eminence, the Shaykh, is it the Sunnah at a wedding occasion to have children beat the hand drums, or to bring in female singers? And is the Sunnah lewd singing or recitation?
The Shaykh : The purpose of beating the hand drum and singing is twofold:
The first is to announce the marriage and make it public, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Announce this marriage, and beat the sieve for it.
أعلنوا النّكاح واضربوا عليه بالغربالThe second is joy, because when the soul is happy, it likes to be delighted in some way. For this reason, a dispensation was granted to her from musical instruments, specifically the hand drum and singing—appropriate singing, not lewd singing, flirtation, or things that arouse desire. As for instruments of amusement other than the hand drum, such as the drum, the flute, the rebab, and the like, this is not permissible.
The questioner : Most songs are lewd, Shaykh, and... from musical tapes.
The Shaykh : No, it is not permissible to use them; it is not permissible to use them. But, praise be to Allah, there are many anthems that include welcoming and greeting those who come to the wedding venue, and they suffice in place of that.
The questioner : ...the least amount used, even if there is a Shaykh, female singers, or someone who recites anthems, this becomes very expensive.
The Shaykh : The issue of extravagance is a mistake.
The questioner : The least amount is three thousand riyals.
The Shaykh : No, we look for one for three hundred riyals!
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : May Allah make it easy, may Allah facilitate... "al-khamr" does not mean breaking the verses, correcting them, but as for extravagance, as I said, sometimes one is three thousand, and some are ten thousand, and some are more, and this is a waste of money.
The questioner : Is it permissible to attend... Shaykh.
The Shaykh : By Allah, I do not see attending.
The questioner : And what is obligatory upon the woman's guardian...?
The Shaykh : He must prevent this, and the man's family must also agree to prevent it, because the problem is sometimes the wife's family do not desire this thing, but the husband's family say, "We must do for our son what was done for so-and-so's son." This is a problem. Sometimes the husband's family do not desire it, and the wife's family say, "We must have our daughter... we must do for you what the family of so-and-so did." But the sensible person knows how to control the situation.
The questioner : Some of them... went, but...
The Shaykh : No, no, absolutely not, do not go.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.